You Can End The Drama…

The more conscious I become of my own internal state, including my emotions, thoughts, and motivations, the more I’m beginning to realize how much internal DRAMA I’ve been living with pretty much my entire life.  Most of us have these little internal ‘drama makers’ that constantly turn reality into some kind of perpetual soap opera.  Drama is essentially conflict… It can be experienced with other people or it can be a battle that ensues within your own self… The source of drama is internal resistance to the present moment, to ‘what IS’… And most drama is completely unnecessary.

Now, this drama is not always blatantly obvious… It can be incredibly subtle.  Anytime you’re not experiencing internal peace inside yourself, there is drama. And it can be manifested as pity, shame, anxiety, unease, a deep sense of lack, insecurity, taking things personally, dwelling on the past, anticipating the imaginary future, gossiping, stress, or really any other kind of fear based thoughts or emotions.

Drama is the result of internal division, and it creates suffering.  But we don’t have to keep living with drama any longer.  If you stop resisting what is and just accept life as it comes, that’s really the end of all the drama.  A Course in Miracles states, ‘No one who is at One with himself can even conceive of conflict’.

You do have a choice… You can choose drama or you can choose peace.  And no one else can make that choice but you.  The way I see it, it’s our responsibility to choose internal peace… It’s the responsibility that we have to the whole of humanity, the good of all. Because inner peace is what CREATES global peace…

Let me know what you think of this post today by leaving a comment down below.  Are you ready to end the drama?

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Terry Petrovick July 17, 2009 at 5:07 pm

Good points Katie.

Have you “Loving What Is?” by Bryon Katie.

In this book you’ll discover how to use 4 questions to end the drama and create more emotional freedom in your life.

You have a choice so, make it a better than terrific day!

.-= Terry Petrovick´s last blog ..The Gift of Listening =-.


Allen July 17, 2009 at 5:14 pm

Liked your post! – You used one of my favorite sayings in your video… “It is What it Is” Accepting this is a key to having peace with what is happening around you. :)


Debbie Wood July 17, 2009 at 5:20 pm

Katie, Another excellent post. It’s amazing to realize just how much drama there is in one’s life when you break down all the forms of drama that you don’t really think about.

Grief, guilt, gossip, are all huge. What you said about just accepting what is is also huge. I read a quote today by Zig Ziglar that says “You’ve got to be before you can do, and do before you can have” that goes right along with this. If we would just BE, and not worry about all the rest of the drama, the doing and the having would come along much more easily. It’s the internal drama that stops us in our tracks.

Thanks for the reminder and all your wisdom! Hope you guys enjoyed Coldplay.
.-= Debbie Wood´s last blog ..Your Opinion of Me is None of My Business, Thank You! =-.


sandra margolis (romeo) July 17, 2009 at 5:33 pm

Thanks for sharing again ! After cigarette, beer and food…. Drama is definitely one of the most popular addiction I have seen around ! I have been observing the subject closer in the last years ! When I personally start to feel fear or some kind of division rising up in me, I remember that it’s simply the old tendency of my mind or at least, part of it ! I identify the feeling I’m going through and it really helps me to let go of the full drama that the mind can create around insecurity. I choose peace and visualize what I want, if I know what it is. More often, I just surrender and make more room for the bigger picture that I might just not be able to see at the moment ! I choose peace !
I am thankful to know and practice a way of being away from drama, towards simplicity, presence in the here and now, unity and peace ! Staying in whole-brain posture is the goal ! Peace inside, peace outside !


Sreve Abrams July 17, 2009 at 5:48 pm

Good post.
It is important that people understand that we need to let these “Drama” issue rise to the surface to that they can be released.
Suppressing these feelings prevents us from releasing and continues the stress and drama.
Wayne Dyer’s new book “Excuses Begone” has some interesting ways to say the same thing.
I do recommend this book/CD’s.


Dena July 17, 2009 at 7:25 pm

Katie you wise beyond your years great post!


Daryl Whicker July 17, 2009 at 7:53 pm

Hi Katie, We can learn a lot from children too. Have you ever noticed children playing and they might get mad at one another and 5 minutes later they’re playing with each other again. I don’t surround myself or entertain people that thrive on drama, I don’t have time for it. If I want drama I will tune into TNT. Thank you for the video! You have so much wisdom and knowledge. Have an awesome time this evening.


Jesus July 17, 2009 at 10:20 pm

Katie, This is very true about Drama. Drama is a multimillion business and that is Ok. But the problem is that We live by drama because is all around us and we think that the correct way to live when actually is just another choice. So my advice is choose wisely and erase drama as much as possible from your life and live the moment. Like you said ” It is what it is “.


Sue Vittner July 17, 2009 at 10:39 pm

Thanks Katie for another thoughtful post. It is amazing how addictive drama can be. My friend and I were talking about going on a 21day “emotional” cleanse… To help break those bad dramatic habits!
In peace, Sue
.-= Sue Vittner´s last blog ..What’s Really At The Root Of This Root Canal? =-.


Damayanthi July 18, 2009 at 8:44 am

Hi Katie,
Excellent post. Yes, so true we create drama for ourselves for nothing. We sometimes dig things of the past and create unnecesary drama fro us.

Great advise.


Fathi Ridwan Basalamah July 18, 2009 at 10:43 am

Life is actually The big drama, even we if think we are playing the best role of life, it is because we THINK AS IF IT IS.
The simple word is HONESTY. Can we really be HONEST to ourselves? Another alternative is : NAIVE! Yes if we are NAIVE it is the state of mind that we don’t play any drama in our live!
Do we think we like if everybody tell us that WE ARE NAIVE?
So, compare what is HONEST and what is NAIVE?


Michael Cloke July 18, 2009 at 2:38 pm

Hi Katie –

I reject drama and I love peace.

Other People and Authorities seem to find it easy to create drama in our lives for us. The best we can do is try to avoid it or escape it temporarily and “just be”, as you say.

Drama just is! It is part of life and as much as I choose peace, drama still exists in others. It would seem that we cannot totally escape drama in our lives until we are dead RIP :(

Love and Peace,
.-= Michael Cloke´s last blog ..Brand Me 2.0 ™ =-.


Gil Pizano July 20, 2009 at 4:23 am

Great points Katie!

Creating such unnecessary drama drains ourselves as well as others around us of energy that can be used somewhere else more productively.

Thanks for posting your views on this!

Best Regards,

.-= Gil Pizano´s last blog ..You Can Discover Culture on Social Media and Social Networking Sites These Days! =-.


Gary July 21, 2009 at 3:10 am

Hey, it’s OK to get excited about things. That’s drama, but there is nothing wrong with it. You mentioned ‘unnecessary drama’ more than once so I assume you agree that there is some drama that is necessary.

One issue I have had to work with is this. I can disconnect from drama quite easily. Even when people are excessive kind or mean I can prevent any meaning being attached to their actions other than the meaning that I create, including allowing it to remain meaningless. My issue is, however, to be careful not to judge from this place of peace. Children especially lack the maturity to disconnect from drama, and their fears and their ability to deal with their fears are a necessary part of their development. Many adults because of trauma or dysfunction cannot disconnect from drama, and if they are family you can’t just toss them out of your life because they are not where you are spiritually. That has been my challenge, to disconnect from the unnecessary drama while understanding that others cannot.


Noel July 21, 2009 at 5:27 pm

Jesus spoke of living life “today” and forgiving and loving everyone, even our enemies.


Tanya July 23, 2009 at 3:17 am

Thank you for your profound thoughts Katie.
I know that internal drama creates external problems. We have to learn every minute how to live in peace inside yourself, i.e. accepting the present moment as it is.
In that way life will be much more enjoyable.



Naomi Kuipers July 28, 2009 at 2:20 pm

Hi Katie thanks so much for the words of wisdom,its so amazing to me when I stop & think about it how little time I spend in the present moment,thanks so much for the reminder!! Naomi


Dru Parent July 30, 2009 at 8:26 pm

Katie, not only are you a virtual GODDESS but you are one of the wisest people I have ever come in contact with.


August 3, 2009 at 10:49 pm

Love this post Katie, you do ROCK!


Lauren August 14, 2009 at 3:57 pm

Thank you for the concise and insightful post. I can always use a reminder to take responsibility for myself and the life I’ve created. “Drama is the result of internal division, and it creates suffering” is exactly what I needed to hear today. Everything is what it is, so why waste energy condemning it? Thanks again, Katie.

Be blessed everyone!
.-= Lauren´s last blog ..Free Inspirational Wallpapers =-.


Alex Lim August 28, 2009 at 5:06 am


I think constant thinking about what is happening about your life and even with others will just make you a drama queen/king. Plus, having too much available time to think will just make things bigger. Over analyzation of situations and not doing any action to resolve such issues makes it worst. It will be a great help, if you will make yourself occupied of things which really matters. Taking immediate and appropriate action to solve problems will eventually free you from life-long stress brought by dramas. Indeed, the first step is to acknowledge the existing issue.

Thanks for the
.-= Alex Lim´s last blog ..Tony Robbins, Frank Kern, And John Reese Interview =-.


Sam Ahern September 3, 2009 at 9:03 pm

Making the choice of Peace in the midst of Drama can be a struggle if you don’t know how to do it. One technique I use is Pause, Breathe Deeply and Slowly into my Belly, Lower my Shoulders from my Ears, See that Worrying Doesn’t Help the Issue, Me, or the People Around Me. I then Get Grateful (
Life then seems to get a whole lot lighter.
.-= Sam Ahern´s last blog ..An Attitude of Gratitude =-.


Kathy Jodrey October 9, 2009 at 5:25 pm

Great post Katie! I’ve found that as I become more in tune with my authentic self I’m more easily able to resist the urge to allow drama to affect my life. When I choose to stay in the moment and trust that everything always works out for me, the fears and worries that used to creep into my life don’t have a chance.

In every situation we have a choice to focus on faith or fear. Faith is better :-)
.-= Kathy Jodrey´s last blog ..How to $ave and Make Money Money through Internet Shopping – Online Shopping USA =-.


Wes Burton October 22, 2009 at 9:34 pm

Katie, I have so much gratitude for people in the world being themselves and being real. This post helps me connect with you on many deep levels and I have never meet you in person. Thank you for sharing your internal truth with me and thank you for all of the wonderful insight that is beautifully dispersed throughout your great blog. I am actually going over your internet marketing information for the second time I find it so valuable. Now to sign up to be an insider. Thank you again Katie.


Wes Burton


Jason Kerchner October 30, 2009 at 10:52 am

It is amazing how much we torment ourselves. Our internal dramas don’t change anything about our external reality, so there really isn’t much point to them. Focusing our efforts on finding solutions to our problems is far more effective in bringing peace. And if there is nothing we can change, then there truly is no point in the drama. Might as well choose peace instead.
.-= Jason Kerchner´s last blog ..Understanding Product Purchases, Investments and ROI =-.


Shannon Tecson March 8, 2010 at 12:01 am

Katie, I am very blessed to have decided a few years ago to end the drama. And that required major internal change on my part. whew! Now as an observer of others dramas I say a prayer for them to “wake up.”

You’re an angel :)
.-= Shannon Tecson´s last blog ..Amongst Other Gifts You Can Gain Through A Home Based Business =-.


Sukie Baxter May 26, 2010 at 4:19 am

Addiction to drama and chaos is very common in today’s world. I have clients who whirl in the door in a flurry of stress and chaos…I like to spend some time sorting that out before we address the bodywork. It’s hard to change your physical being when your mind is wrapped in drama, and the opposite is also true.
.-= Sukie Baxter´s last blog ..Rolfing is NOT Torture =-.


Francesco May 31, 2010 at 2:36 am

Yeah you always do have a choice.
I choose to rock!!!!!
.-= Francesco´s last blog ..Why are you so beautiful? Because I’m happy! =-.


Nacie Carson June 10, 2010 at 1:09 pm

What always shocks me is that people think that drama is something that is created in the outside world; but in actuality, drama really starts from within. once you can quiet the inner drama and make piece with the person the mirror, you will notice that exterior drama never seems to reach you…wonderful post!
.-= Nacie Carson´s last blog ..Finding A Lucrative Niche Is the Key to Success =-.


Jennifer May July 14, 2010 at 7:56 pm

Oh Drama, Drama, Drama! It has been the core of my life for years until only a year ago. I grew up in a family that truly fought every single day. (This is why I moved out when I was 16 years old) Since then I have always tried to stay out of the drama but it always seemed to be there. What I realized was that I ALLOWED it to be there and now I live my life as drama free as possible. I basically cut off the surroundings in my life that would bring this and officially let certain family members know how I was feeling and that I would not allow any of it in my life anymore! And for the most part IT WORKED! I now live day to day in more peace than ever!

That is why I really enjoyed this video because I learned the hard way the message you shared here and actually learned more on this aspect of my life because of your video! You are absolutely right and thank you so much for this! :)
.-= Jennifer May´s last blog ..The Entrepreneur’s Mindset – 5 Simple Tasks To Feed Your Mind =-.


TJ Chambers July 23, 2010 at 11:18 pm

LoL Katie. You hair covers your clothes and it makes it look like your naked.

I keep trying to reduce the drama in my life but at times it is hard when others want to create it. I just try to back down and move from it.
.-= TJ Chambers´s last blog ..Jul 21- MLM Lead Generating Training With Cutting Edge Marketing =-.


Luis September 11, 2010 at 11:06 am

Hi Katie,

You are soooo right. thanks for sharing
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Carlos M. September 28, 2010 at 2:07 pm

Hi Katie,

I hope I can end the drama in my life
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