3 “Great Myths” of Personal Development (And How To Truly Be Free)

There are still quite a few “myths” out there about what personal development is really all about… And it’s definitely time to let go of the old, false misconceptions and beliefs about what we think personal growth can “do” for us, and embrace the TRUTH about what it means to be on this very special and sacred journey of self discovery.

It’s a journey that never ends, but fulfills the deepest longing we have as human beings to really KNOW who we are at our core.  And when we understand more about who we really are, we stop creating and perpetuating stories of struggle… and we can let life flow through us in incredibly magical ways!

I just returned from a personal growth event in Costa Rica… And I’d love to share my insights and reflections with you about the myths and truths of personal development and why I’m so darn passionate about it!  Click play to hear more…

So what do you actually “discover” along this journey?  Well… again, that’s for YOU to experience for yourself!  But let me tell you… you’ll feel a deeper sense of personal freedom, authenticity, creativity, love, power, wisdom, and connection with all of life. And it really can’t get any more beautiful than that!

I’d LOVE to hear from you!

What does personal growth mean to you?  Leave a comment below and “share the love” if this video had an impact on you today.  Thank you for being you!

Yours in Awakening,

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Barbara December 15, 2010 at 3:02 am

Thank you for sharing your reflections!

What does a personal growth mean to me?
This is my personal definition. Personal growth is all about finding the best in me, strengthening and stretching these areas of my personality in order to improve my life and make the difference to the world.


Laila Amrouche December 15, 2010 at 4:15 am

Thank You, Catie, so much for sharing your view on self discovery!
I love it =)
Self honesty is really the key to discover your true nature and create your dream life!

Love and light


Eduard - People Skills Decoded December 15, 2010 at 4:27 am

Hey Katie,

I’ve definitely fallen in the trap of believing in that second myth. Now I realize that positive thinking can be as bad as negative thinking if it means ignoring important aspects of reality.

This is why I practice what one may call realistic thinking. I don’t focus on the good or the bad, I focus on the facts and on what’s practical for me to focus on.



Darren Spruyt December 15, 2010 at 4:45 am

Well said Katie! It’s a pity that the people who are really involved and know the importance of personal growth are those that are successful or on their way there! Many times I have friends who tell me “Do you have a problem?” when I share my passion in improving myself personally and engaging myself with personal development books and audios.

I believe positive thinking is the first stage when we get involved, but as we delve deeper into personal development, it is really about watching our thoughts and monitoring how our mind works. Only till we understand how our mind operates can we control it. Clarity = Awareness. Without awareness, we will not know and be able to CHANGE.

Very well said.. the 3 myths are definitely myths and people need to understand them! I’m sharing this with everyone! :) Thank you for sharing this key myths with everyone Katie!

Darren Spruyt
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Ray Higdon December 15, 2010 at 4:48 am

Great message, totally agree!
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Milla December 15, 2010 at 5:08 am

Great video Katie. You look great and are wise :)
I agree with what your are saying. Personal development to me in a nutshell is that yo love yourself, you are never ever bored because you have your thoughts and you love them :)
To me, I have always felt good when crying because I was aware/ honest of everything I could think of. I knew that I was getting stronger by going through this minor suffering process (crying.)

It is what you say, to be able to be in the now and be happy because existence itself is beautiful.


A big hug to you Katie! :))


Patrick December 15, 2010 at 5:10 am

Hi Katie,

Love your enthusiasm and view on personal growth.
We are complete as we are and evolving.
Keep up the good work and enjoy!

B2W: Where did you get that great stone fountain on your right?


Katie Freiling December 15, 2010 at 12:07 pm

Hi Patrick! It’s a store called “Soul Scape” out here in SD :)


Claire Hayes December 15, 2010 at 5:17 am

Hi Katie
I always watch your videos, as I love your enthusiasm and clarity. As someone much older than you, you also remind me of my younger self in my twenties- when I was discovering the sheer brilliance of this journey of self-discovery.
In my thirtes, I had children, when all my “warriorhood” and personal and spiritual growth work was put to the test, especially with a Special Needs child. Oh, Life, now I get it. This is what I have to learn.
And it was SO much harder than I thought it would be. Talk about spiritual growth through trial and tribulation. “God only gives you what you can cope with…” “This challenge is an opportunity…” and so forth. No more weekend workshops. No time. No money. Just sheer putting it all into practice.

Not so easy. But impossible I think without all the “self-development” I had done. It gave me tools for clearing and forgiveness and dealing with mindtalk… And I have emerged stronger, more compassionate nd certainly wiser.
It is what I am putting into my business now, as well as my life.
So I applaud you Katie. You have a bright light. And you have learnt early on what is important. You have a clarity and passion of presentation which is the mark of a great teacher. Well done, and thank you.
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Ellen Pouw December 15, 2010 at 5:19 am

Hi Katie

Great that your back and ….with a powerful message!
Personal Development is for everyone..but you have to open yourself.. and be aware of it.



Arthur December 15, 2010 at 5:39 am

Your energy grous to the sky! Remember myself when i went on some realy good trainings! And i am understandong that media and webinars never be better than real time trainings!


Sonny Lanorias December 15, 2010 at 5:39 am

Hello Katie,

Good to see you back home =) What’s better is this awesome message that you’ve just shared with us. Thanks for sharing.
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ryan stewman December 15, 2010 at 5:44 am

great post today thanks for keepin up the good work.


Koya December 15, 2010 at 5:49 am

Loved your video! Personal Development is something I’ve been passionate about my whole life as well! Thanks so much for sharing your myths! I think those are definitely things I’ve heard before too and I agree with you that personal growth should be embraced by all so our spirit can shine beyond our physical being! You’re awesome! Congrats on your journey!


David J. Phifer December 15, 2010 at 5:57 am

Terrific video, Katie! There are people who get it and those who don’t…the people who respect and acknowledge self-development consciously are people who always seem to get it. People who scoff at and look down on self-development really bother me. And I don’t think I’ll ever got over that.

We grow through either deliberately or we are motivated by pain and forced to grow. Growth and expansion is a quality our spirit possesses. It often feels like we are ‘being fixed’ and appears like that to some, but like you said, Katie, we work to get past the limitations holding us from our true selves. Growth is merely a seeking of truth of ourselves, our true selves, and expanding that true self in awareness and being.

I’m a producer/director and have chosen to pursue the passion of creating and film over blog marketing, so I’m technically not in the same field as you, but I hope to meet you one of these days in person, you are an amazing light of a woman, Katie! Keep shining:)


Arlan Berglas December 15, 2010 at 6:23 am


We are setting up World Peace One events all over the world this summer 2011. I’d like to speak with you about the 3.5 billion people that will be watching and how you can play a big part!


Michelle Alpha December 15, 2010 at 6:27 am

You’re so sweet. I love how you inspire so many. Good to see you back. I look forwarding to meeting you soon.


Elizabeth Snyder December 15, 2010 at 6:43 am


You make such a crucial point when you say that self improvement is not about “fixing” what’s wrong with us. Marcus Buckingham in his strength finder books points out that most people make the mistake of trying to sharpen up their weak areas, rather than honing in on and focusing on what they do best.

The things we pay attention to get bigger and (hopefully) better!

Thank you as always for sharing yourself with us.

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VASSO-ANNA DEMENEGA December 15, 2010 at 6:46 am

Hello Katie and friends,

I believe that personal growth is a kind of a lifestyle!! It is a mindset! It is a beautiful way to run your life. The ancient Greek philosopher, Socrates, used to say that we learn and develop our mind and spirit as the years go by and we grow in age … and this is a life-long process. I believe that from the bottom of my heart … since I am Greek … therefore I totally agree with you Katie!!


Vasso-Anna Demenega


Dan December 15, 2010 at 7:20 am

Hi Katie, Great post today and right up my alley!
This is something I write about often in my “Feed Your Mind” posts.

To me personal development is a journey in the discovery of our ‘limitless’ abilities. I find the truth is we limit ourselves with our belief’s and this stops us from becoming more. Being honest with yourself is part of the Un-Forming of those limiting beliefs. When you go on the journey of discovery, you begin to realize what you thought about yourself (the negative feelings we have) is really not true at all and there is this wonderful person inside that has no limitations. This is the wonderful discovery of Personal Development. It is your “Eureka” moment(s)!

I love teaching people about their 2 most powerful healing emotions that we can ALL develop and grow with. There-in you discover your truth and your true abilities.

Have a Great Day Katie, Thank you for this reminder.

Dan Brooks


Pablo December 15, 2010 at 7:41 am

As always, great message, great job Katie..Thank you for sharing…
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Lani Kee - Mind Mapping Techniques December 15, 2010 at 8:04 am

Aloha Katie, great insight and flow of energy. It’s good to see you take the time to find yourself and share it. If we all can do the same by recognizing our own destiny of truth, then we are able to set free all the BS go and it won’t bother us so much. I appreciate your inspirational message with great passion and I can recognize you love what you do. Awesome! Lanikee.com :)
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Roz Pearcy December 15, 2010 at 8:27 am

What a great message Katie! I do see people and have experienced this myself where we feel that personal growth is how we can improve ourselves. And while that is a tiny part of personal growth, it’s more about the journey of self discovery as you said.

Personal growth to me is finding my true self, which then in turns helps others to find theirs as well. It’s a constant journey but a beautiful one at that!
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Curt Bizelli December 15, 2010 at 8:38 am

Katie, wonderful message here! I can tell your truly passionate about personal development. It radiates through your body language. You are truly letting your light shine. Congrats on that. Most people go through life not even knowing what they want or being too scared to go after it. You’ve been a great inspiration in my life.

As Always, God Bless,
Curt “CBiz” Bizelli
skype: the1cbiz
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shecky December 15, 2010 at 8:45 am

Hey Katie,

Sounds like a great trip. I’d like to go on the next one.

Your point about personal development being for everyone is well taken. Sadly, not everyone recognizes that. It’s great that we can share these ideas with our friends, and spread that message. Once we are all recognizing this as part of life, the entire consciousness of the planet will be raised.

I look at it as a lifestyle….I don’t want to ever stop learning, and finding out new things about my true self. Thank you for always sharing from your heart. You rock!



Bruce Backman December 15, 2010 at 10:12 am

Great job Katie! I am happy that you were able to go to Costa Rica and experience some of your own personal growth. As you mentioned in your video, your experience would not be for everyone and not everyone needs to follow the same journey you are on…but I appreciate that you shared your thoughts and feelings with us…thanks!

Personal Growth is all about the Truth as you say. I am confident that as people seek out the Truth they will ultimately find what that is. I have found that a good reflection of a life that is living in the Truth is how much self is infused into that life vs. how much Love is working its way in and through a person’s life. The mark of a person finding ultimate fulfillment on this journey we call life is found not in the expansion of the self but in the ability to connect with the Life that is beyond us. You allude to this in your video. Connecting with the True Source of Life and Truth is the fountainhead of all that we are called to in this life of ours.

In my life experiences having a family with seven children has been hugely instrumental in helping me really find the end of myself at the source of all Life. It has been a challenging but wonderful journey. When I have gotten close to the end of my own self-life and started allowing the beauty of truly seeing others instead I found that the truth of who I am started to shine more brightly.

It is counter-intuitive to most people because we are patterned to go out and grab for ourselves. Most people will even talk about love and helping others and so forth…but really what they are seeking is relationships and circumstances that help create a better situation for themselves. People, in general, are constantly trying desperately to get more and be more. The understanding that to truly find yourself is to lose all of that stuff is completely against common wisdom but it is Truth. Finding out who you really are and then realizing that your true fulfillment (not a state of nirvana but completely a personal fulfillment) comes not in getting for yourself but in living out the Love that is given us from the Source of all Life and Truth.

Few people find this kind of Life but I would really encourage everyone to take Katie’s lead and really seek out the Truth of who you really are and where the Source of a Beautiful Life really springs from.

There is definitely more at that place than people realize.


Tom, author of The Internet Book December 15, 2010 at 10:50 am

The journey never ends. The older I get the more I realize that I know less now than I thought I did last year :-)

The process nerer ends…until our journey on this planet ends.


JoreJj Z. December 15, 2010 at 11:22 am

My favorite definition of personal growth is that we are already fully realized divine spiritual beings and accepting and allowing that helps us be non attached to the intensity of personal growth. The growing and “self-realization” is part of the illusion of being in this world.

I also love the immortal masters who “attained a divine body” who showed the way to go all the way. To me “going all the way” is personal growth.
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Sue December 15, 2010 at 11:30 am

Excellent insights about the myths of personal growth Katie. I’m loving your posts and finding more and more about myself everyday. Personal growth is a process, and I’m stoked to learn something from every step of the way.

Thanks again for shining your light!

With Love,

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John Lowery December 15, 2010 at 11:43 am

Great Video Katie! Sounds like you and I are on the same path.



Mike in the Uk December 15, 2010 at 11:46 am

That was an amazing awakening type video!
Personally, I think that we would all make amazing progress automatically…if we just got rid of all that BS and stopped telling stories to ourselves and each other. Kid other people, if that serves your purpose but don’t kid yourself. The biggest liers we know are ourselves!!!
We get so cught up and eager to learn about personal/self improvement that we believe all of it but just the 3 you’ve pointed out, have shown me…wait a moment, think about things first before blindly believing them. The first myth was a home truth, there isn’t anything to fix!
I just want to improve, gain those aha moments, help out and just be a great guy. Thanks for that insight…your AWESOME Katie xxx


Dale Holmes December 15, 2010 at 12:53 pm


It’s great fun when you go off on your personal enrichment adventures and then return home excited to share your stories with us.

To us “potatoes” who live vicariously, you’re like our one-woman “Lewis and Clark Expedition” to the Terra Incognito of Self-discovery.:)

So I wonder, would you be open to our requests for 2011?

For example, jumping out of an airplane at 10,000 feet scares me silly, but what a great opportunity it would be for a truly awesome “Overcome your Fears” blog video!

You could just think of it as “stepping out in California Goggle Chic.” (For you, teal, maybe turquoise if it’s cloudy on jump day.)

OMG, the mind swoons at the possibilities!

Consider the comments and responses:

“Katie, I still can’t believe you actually ate that entire poisonous Japanese blow fish. Did it taste like chicken? Did you think to try it with mayo?”

“Sorry about that avalanche putting such a damper on your Everest ascent. Good thing you’re not claustrophobic; I’d have freaked!”

“Mother of pearl, I never would have guessed that an elephant could run that fast either!”

“Heroic idea, but none of us will think any less of you for not following in the “best tradition” of Amelia Earhart.”

“Wow! Your shark cage video rocks! But it ends so suddenly, did that Mako eat one or both your swim fins?”

“I’ve owned several over the years, and straight up, Katie, female pythons are not usually that aggressive, really.”

“Thank you so very much! You completely overcame my 3 worst primal fears of heights, falling and darkness. How in the heck did you ever think to bungee jump down an elevator shaft?”

“Karate chops are typically frowned upon in alligator wrestling, but damn, sister, you sure know how to earn “street cred” at the reptile pavilion!”


Us spuds can hardly wait!


D. Cole December 15, 2010 at 12:55 pm

You are awesome and beautiful Katie. Wish I knew you in person!


Roshanda Gilmore December 15, 2010 at 1:16 pm

Hi Katie,

A eye opening post for sure. I LOVE how your video mentions finding our “inner truth”. Sometimes this can be challenging but if we really dig deep and get past the surface our greatness will come out!
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Shelley Belcourt December 15, 2010 at 1:22 pm

HI Katie

I totally agree with what you have said.

You know, when I was a little girl my mother wrote in my autograph book and the quote is incredible pertinent. She wrote…”To thine own self be true”

Now that I am older I understand this means knowing myself, and being true to my authentic ME.

What great words of wisdom to a young girl!

Yours in Vitality
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Alison Elliot December 15, 2010 at 1:25 pm

Awesome post Katie. I’ve been involved with Personal Development for over 30 years. You are absolutely correct when you say it’s not about fixing, changing or healing anything. Until I got that I had a hard time, after I got that my life totally transformed.

The truth about personal development is that it is the key which unlocks us to who and what we already are. And the more we engage with the process, the brighter we shine. Thanks so much for being such a bright light!


Nicholas Lupo December 15, 2010 at 1:33 pm

I’m really tired of trying to impress, even myself. Been holding on way too many untrue concepts and expectations and finally have between yourself and Darla LeDoux, can be so appreciative of you who are completely engaged in self discovery and it’s importance. I really love this sharing and I know for a fact, that I personally will never reach my calling without the committment first to a calling but to realizing in order to be truly happy, I must find my own truth and where it leads. Thank u so much Katie.


Lee Collett December 15, 2010 at 1:41 pm

Great video. You ask what Personal Development is to me. I agree that personal development is becoming more like what you want to be. Physically I have matured to become like my earthly father. Now, through personal development, I want to become more like my Heavenly Father, to take on those traits that He has. I know that I am a child of God and that through an eternal progression I can become like him as I did with my earthly father.


Julia Rohrmoser December 15, 2010 at 2:05 pm

Personal growth for me has been self awareness. Asking myself the question, “What on Earth Am I Here For?” It has been going through hurts and pains, and discovery that, it is a journey.

Discovering who I am has brought about true freedom for me.

Great Video!


Jennifer May December 15, 2010 at 2:19 pm

Thanks Katie for the beautiful video! You are absolutely right on with this true explanation of what personal growth really is. For years I personally worked on “personal development” but I was missing that deeper connection. I couldn’t truly see as of yet that I was not committed to the growth of myself but more so just “positive thinking”. It was the missing link to becoming all that I already am.

The biggest moment was when I made it “known” that I was ready, that I wanted what would connect it all. Once you are open and ready for that next level of consciousness and connection that is where the doors will literally become wide open.

For myself, after working for years trying to improve myself verses just remembering who I am, that light, that essence… I finally was ready to bring on what was necessary for true personal growth. And I will say in much thanks to you and your guidance. Your blog was my initial step into that higher level, that deeper connection.

Now I can proudly say that I am fully connected not only to my own growth, learning and heart but to my true purpose. Mostly I am connected to my light and my own being which words cannot even describe that transformation. I appreciate you for your contribution for that. You are beautiful!

Lots of love and thank yous!


Trish Kirby December 15, 2010 at 4:36 pm

Hi Katie,

Absolutely LOVE your blog and this article. I am on my journey looking for my true calling. I have grown so much in the past year and I’m excited for 2011. I can relate to “I’ll be happy when…” Financially my husband and I are struggling and I’m trying to build a network marketing company so that I don’t have to worry about money anymore. I’m tired of not being able to buy the necessities that my family needs when they need it or to be able to get my haircut when I need it and now when I can afford it. Changing my mindset has been difficult at times. Undoing those false thoughts that go thru my mind isn’t easy but I know it will be worth it in the end and I have met some wonderful people along the way. I choose who I spend my time with very carefully now. Thanks for a great website and I look forward to reading (& listening) to your future posts.

God Bless,
Trish Kirby´s last blog post ..Principles of Leadership


Ulf Anders Hed December 15, 2010 at 5:51 pm

OMG !, Katie !
It seems that my last comment happened to be the 38 th response to your video ! And I just retweeted this., as the 44 th retweet, and I shared it on Facebook as the 55 th share ! I mean 4+4 = 8, and 5+5 = 10 which redyces 1+0 = 1.. Meaning that it says 81 ! And 81 BACKWARDS is actually 18, Katie ! 18, the Life Nymber ! And in addition to that.. I happened to see that I submitted my last comment at 05 : 10.. And it adds up to 6 ! God´s Number in the Creation Holograph there AGAIN ! And it is also my birthday, you can say, as I was born on May (05) 10 ! Help mr Katie ! HELP ! I cannot do a thing it seems without it is telling me that I am incredibly special.. I just want to be mr, Katie ! HELP ME FOR GOD´S SAKE ! ; )
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Mike E December 15, 2010 at 5:59 pm

Katie, Loved your video. I stride every day towards finding my true self in my personal as well as my professional life. This is really ausom teaching.


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Amani December 15, 2010 at 7:22 pm

Very true Katie, we HAVE to start with ourselves!


Scotty December 15, 2010 at 7:59 pm

Wow Katie. You absolutely killed it on that one! Superbly explained. One of my favorite blog post from you. Love it :)

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Christa-Ann Godsdaughter December 15, 2010 at 9:33 pm

I feel that personal development is knowing and honoring the self.


Stephen Marofsky December 15, 2010 at 11:25 pm

Thank you Katie. At its core personal growth was very well illustrated in the Lion King movie when Mufasa says to Simba, “Look inside yourself Simba, you are more than what you have become…”
Personal growth, Katie, is the process of filling in that gap by learning how actually look inside yourself (read: your self). i.e. Your SELF is different than everybody else’s SELF. Becoming your true SELF is what the lifelong journey of personal growth is all about. Being the best YOU.


Fathi Ridwan Basalamah December 16, 2010 at 2:31 am

Welcome back Katie…..:-)
Always agree with you…..and personal development means to me think when we experience and feel desperate in life, sick, angry, unhappy, etc….But somehow we still aware and can switch from all those negative feeling to be as a normal person again than this is i call ” Personal Development ” as long as we think that life is a long process of learning to be better a human being and love everybody as there are nobody perfect…in this point of view we never hate ourselves as well as everybody……:-)


Steven Downward December 16, 2010 at 6:41 am

Hey Katie

This was really great. I love ehow you talked about the fact that person growth is not about thinking positive but actually about self discovery. I find that learning about who I am is a life long journey and yes it’s a journey.

I feel that to me personal growth is about unmasking my authentic self. I’ve found that I let fear take control over my life and stop me from doing the things that I really want to do. That is where the growth work comes into play, with me taking this things that bring up those fears and move through them and be proud of myself for taking the action in the face of fear.

Thanks for this Katie… Just writing this has helped me to open my eyes a bit more and I’ll be using that to grow more.

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Mike December 15, 2010 at 9:29 pm

Well,it is true what you saying but it isnt always that simply.If it would, we will be much happier people.The journey along the way to actually experience the personal growth is the most difficult one.Not the summary as you presented .To be able to reach inside is much more complicated and then staying on the top of it which means focus is even harder.But this is a start for a lot of people to reflect on it and see ourselves differently


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