How I Overcame My Biggest FEAR…

August 12, 2009

What would your life look like with NO FEAR?

What would you be able to do, create, and experience?  If you really take the time to imagine this, you’ll feel a HUGE sense of relief… Like a big weight has been lifted from your shoulders.  Without fear, you would be able to experience complete and utter freedom.

It’s FEAR that really keeps us chained to our limiting beliefs and insecurities and holds us back from expressing the inherent power that’s inside each of us.  If we didn’t believe the fear, it would hold no power over us.  But that’s really the hard part… How do you overcome fear?  How do you stop giving fear any reality?

Well, I just wanted to let you all know HOW I overcame my biggest fear this past weekend… And hopefully this story will inspire you to let go of YOUR fears and step into your true power!

If you read the ‘About Katie’ section of my blog, you’ll see that I grew up incredibly shy and introverted.  It was extremely difficult for me to speak and express myself at all and I was constantly consumed with fear… Fear of what others thought of me, fear of how I appeared or looked, fear of being rejected, fear of not being loved (I could go on and on).  But as I grew older, that fear slowly dissipated and I was able to grow more and more into my true self.

Overcoming Fears, One Step At A Time…

Being an entrepreneur has been a HUGE catalyst in helping me overcome many of the insecurities and limiting beliefs that I was still holding onto…

The first time I ever had to make a video, I was extremely nervous and intimidated… But I did it, and now I’ve been able to use video to create a massive online presence and profitable business for myself.

The first time I ever had to do a training call for my team, I was very nervous… But as I overcame that fear, team training calls became less and less scary.  It was the same experience with doing webinars… In fact, the big webinar I did for the community last week even made me nervous at first.  But the more I pushed myself to ‘just do it’ and overcome my fears, the less of a grip fear really had over me.

My Ultimate Fear…

But my BIGGEST fear is, without a doubt, public speaking.  The mere thought of it still makes my body quiver and my stomach nauseous… It is the one thing I dread the most!

The very first time I ever had to speak in public was last year.  I was asked by my company to fly out to Las Vegas and speak at an event in front of about 150 people.  I was scared to death, but I tried to hide my fear as I walked up to the front of the room with the microphone in hand…

As I started speaking, my throat became extremely constricted and it was very hard to breathe all of a sudden.  My heart was beating out of my chest and I was convinced that everyone could hear it through the microphone!  Like a deer in headlights, my mind completely blanked on the speech I had prepared.  An overwhelming feeling of weakness started flowing throughout my entire body and I realized that I was about to faint!  My knees started buckling and before I hit the ground, I ran back to my seat and held my head down before I went unconscious.  My body was trembling, sweating, and I felt incredibly sick and nauseous.

I was absolutely humiliated…  I wanted to just shrivel up into a little ball and disappear.  Thankfully everyone around me was very understanding and compassionate and tried their best to make me feel better.  That day was one of the most embarrassing, but yet one of the most growth-inducive experiences of my entire life!

Facing It Again…

After that, I knew I needed to overcome my fear of public speaking if I wanted to fully step into my own power.  So when my company asked me to speak again this past weekend in Orlando, Florida, I had to say yes.  My mind was resisting it and I was tempted to start coming up with any excuses I could think of to NOT do it… But my heart was telling me that this was important.  I needed this chance to truly overcome my biggest fear and really walk the walk when it comes to personal growth and development.

So the morning of my speech, I spent some time alone in my room and did some deep breathing.  I sat there with my eyes closed and envisioned myself walking out on stage with power.  In my mind, when I looked out to see the crowd of people staring back at me, I felt the feeling of being completely and utterly FREE.  I consciously invoked the feeling of freedom from any fear, worry, anxiety, or inhibitions.  I chose to see this moment as a step towards the realization of my own power and freedom, not as something to fear.

Instead of worrying about nearly fainting again or imagining another awful scenario, I consciously chose to only focus on feeling empowered and free.  Whatever we focus on, we create… And there was no way I was going to sabotage myself by creating mental pictures of what I DIDN’T want.  I mentally rehearsed the outcome that I DID want.

I also decided to feel my inner body and get very connected to myself beforehand.  I spent some time observing my inner state and accepting whatever it was I was feeling.  My body was still experiencing the physiological response of being scared and nervous, but instead of resisting it, I just accepted it with compassion.  I had the sense of, ‘Oh, that’s just my body feeling nervous.  That’s completely ok, and I see it as part of the growth process.’

After getting grounded and centered, I made my way down to the event.  There were about 400 excited people in the room.  I made my way backstage to get hooked up with a microphone and waited for my turn to go out on stage.  As my name was called, I walked out there with a smile…

When I looked out to the crowd, I remembered what I had practiced about feeling empowered and free when I saw everyone looking back at me.  I will admit, I was still incredibly nervous and started trembling when the words came out of my mouth.

Instead of focusing on how I looked or what others thought, I chose to focus on what I could GIVE to my audience.  The more I spoke, the less nervous I became and the words flowed out of me clearly.  When I finished and walked backstage, I was greeted with big hugs from everyone helping out behind the curtain (Most everybody had heard about the ‘incident’ the year before!).  I felt so relieved and really proud of myself that I did it!  I overcame the biggest fear of my entire life!

I sat back down in the audience and the speaker who went up after me decided to share the story of what happened to me the year before… The audience was so impressed and everyone was clapping proudly for me!

An Inspiration For Others…

For the rest of the weekend, I had TONS of people coming up to me and telling me how much of an inspiration that was for them to see.  They witnessed a huge tipping point in my life and watched me overcome a tremendous fear.  They were all inspired to now go out and conquer the fears that were holding them back in life.  Although they were inspired, no one could tell it was my first time really speaking in front of such a large audience… They all said it looked like I’d been doing it for years!

It is such an AMAZING feeling to overcome a fear that had such a strong grip on me… And I can’t even begin to express how empowering it truly is.  When you overcome any fear you have, whether large or small, you move one step closer to freedom.  And you start to see just how darn powerful you really are when you no longer let fear control your life.

Personal Growth…

This is really what the personal growth journey is all about.  Without challenges, we would never grow.  And the people who are the most successful are those who have GROWN the most.  So how do you really overcome fear?

Face it head on.

The more you run from fear or run from things that challenge you, the more you run from success.  So I encourage you to ‘seek out’ experiences that terrify you.  Challenge yourself to face your fears and regardless of the outcome, you’ll be growing by leaps and bounds.  There really is no such thing as failure… Only experiences that challenge us to grow.

I don’t see my experience in Las Vegas as a failure at all.  In fact, that was exactly the experience I needed to have to help me overcome this crazy fear of public speaking!  Now, I’m sure I’ll still experience nervousness again next time I have to speak in public… But now I have an inner strength that will keep getting stronger and stronger the more I challenge myself to grow.

One of the biggest reasons people don’t experience the success they’re looking for in life is their FEAR.  They run from their fears, they run from what challenges them, and then they wonder why they’re not more successful.  It’s actually a very simple thing to figure out… But not always an easy one to do!

So when it comes to building a business for yourself and creating the life you want, what’s holding YOU back?  What are your biggest fears?  I’d love to hear from you, so please share them in the comment box down below.  Just by acknowledging them and writing them down, they’ll already have less of a grip on you.

And if you’ve had the courage to go out and FACE one of your fears, I’d love to hear your story as well!  The more transparent and real we are with each other, the more we’re able to really support and help each other along the path of personal growth and transformation.  Our stories of courage are true inspirations for others!

It was so great to share this story with you here today and I hope I was able to inspire YOU to overcome your fears and start living a life of true freedom!

And please TWEET this out to your Twitter followers!  I’d love to share this with as many people as possible!

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Yours In Freedom,

Katie Freiling

P.S.  I had asked a friend to record my speech, but unfortunately the flip cam ran out of juice right before I went on stage.  I’m in the process of getting a copy of it from my company, so I’ll keep you updated and post it when I get it!





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Eric Goldstein August 12, 2009 at 8:52 am

Katie,

You ROCK my friend! Super
inspiring. I think the stats
show that people are more afraid
of public speaking then they are
of death… so you go girl!

Keep shining that bright light:)
.-= Eric Goldstein´s last blog ..Integrity: The Power In Telling the Truth =-.

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Shaylee August 12, 2009 at 8:57 am

Great post Katie!

I just got my Flip video and will be making my first video next week :)

I’m definitely feeling a bit fearful but this story is definitely inspirational! Thank you!

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Therese Miu August 12, 2009 at 9:00 am

Hi Katie as I just read this post just reminded me so much of what Wayne Dyer said and it goes hand in hand with your blogpost..”One of the most effective means for transcending ordinary and moving into a realm of extraordinary is saying YES more frequently and elliminating No almost completely. I call it saying “YES” to LIFE. Say YES to yourself, to your family, your children, your co-workers, and your business.” Hafiz says, “I rarely let the word NO escape from my mouth Because it is plain to my soul that God has shouted, Yes!Yes!Yes! to every luminous movement in Existence” When we say YES to life–almost instantly the fear disappears as we connect to our higest Intention. Thanks for reminding us all to step out of our comfort zones.

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Chris Johnstone August 12, 2009 at 9:01 am

Another great post!

Thanks for sharing. Last year I had to speak in front of my first big crowd as well.

I had to LOL when I read “My heart was beating out of my chest and I was convinced that everyone could hear it through the microphone!” I have had that exact same thought :)

If you have a message that you know can help others, you have a responsibility to overcome your fear so that you can help others by sharing what you have learned.

I am glad you have overcome your fear, your message is one that I feel needs to be shared.

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Scott Phares August 12, 2009 at 9:05 am

Congratulations Katie!! Speaking in public is the number ONE fear over everything for most everyone. I’m glad to see you took it head on and overcame it. You are a true inspiration!

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Ron August 12, 2009 at 9:08 am

HI Katie !

Very nice post, i am about to make my first video and i am very nervous about it so i can easily relate to what your fear was….

But you overcome it…Very well done ! Very inspiring.

Ron
.-= Ron´s last blog ..Wow ! That’s Inspiring… =-.

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Dmitry Vilchitsky August 12, 2009 at 9:09 am

Hey, great story Katie! Congrats on your victory!

I had to face some of my fears in the past, and I want to say it was worth it. Exactly like you said, I learned a lot from those experiences, and I it’s a knowledge which impossible to “get” just from reading books. Learning by doing what’s difficult is an adrenaline-pumped personal textbook of life – no one else will understand it w/o experiencing it for yourself.

I still have some fears left and to name a few on a top of my list is fear of bosses, fear of emotional conversations (negative) and fear of failing to live up to my promices. Hope I will be strong to overcome them as well.
.-= Dmitry Vilchitsky´s last blog ..Fast-food Ice Looses to Toilet Bowl Water in Purity =-.

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Gil Pizano August 12, 2009 at 9:20 am

Great story Katie!

According to psychological studies, public speaking is the number 2 phobia (Death by fire is #1).

It is said that “A setback is a setup for a comeback” and you have shown it to be true. Congratulations and thank you for sharing your very inspirational story.

Best Regards,
Gil

http://www.gilpizano.com
.-= Gil Pizano´s last blog ..Networking and People =-.

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Alex Lim August 12, 2009 at 9:29 am

Katie!

When I got the email for this post, I was expecting a video :)

But, I’m glad you wrote this story, it was AWESOME!

Asking myself, what’s my biggest fear, is a stretch for me…

I’ve always tried not to consciously think about the things I’m scared of – in a apprehension of manifestation

I mentally focus on positive things, as I’ve honestly worked very hard on myself!

But, I honestly wanted to come up with something, so I could surface my fears and face it…

So what’s my fear?

FAILURE – without a doubt!

I’m utterly terrified of not succeeding, with being an entrepreneur. I’m terrified of letting my family down. I’ve spent so much time and money with my dream…

I KNOW being an entrepreneur is just WHO I AM, I’ve ALWAYS known this!

But how do I face my fear?

Alex Lim

P.S. I’d welcome anyone’s reply :)
.-= Alex Lim´s last blog ..How To Get Internet Marketing Traffic And A New Competition Hosted By Alex Jeffreys =-.

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Michael Cloke August 12, 2009 at 11:40 am

Hey Alex -

It sounds like your fear of failure is already consuming you. You know your going to fail, right. Wrong. You choose! Learn from successful people and study how they do it.

Failure/Success becomes a habit. Make it your single most important priority to be a success!

The rest is history my friend..
.-= Michael Cloke´s last blog ..Digital Influence =-.

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Sue Vittner August 12, 2009 at 9:35 am

way to go katie!! i am right there with you (as you were last year)…and intend to face my fear one of these days as well. i know the youtube videos i’m making have helped a ton and thanks to your inspiration i’m keeping at them.

about 4 or 5 months ago i was in a workshop where we looked at the root causes of deep issues/fears we had. for me it was feeling that i was not being heard…which transpired in my life as no confidence when i speak.

i came out of the workshop with an affirmation which i continue to say…”i have an amazing presence and i am a powerful communicator.” i know that led me to taking on the youtube challenge as well, and will eventually get me in front of an audience. because i want to live BIG!

thanks for your exposure and keeping it real.
love, sue vittner
.-= Sue Vittner´s last blog ..Law of Attraction Hypnosis =-.

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Donna Brogan August 12, 2009 at 9:39 am

Katie,

That was the most inspirational story I have ever heard. You rock!! My growing up experiences were just about like yours. I was very shy and worried all the time about what other people thought about me. I was above average in most classes in school but not really smart. I have never been a person who watched the news and kept up on things. I felt I had nothing to offer so I had few friends.

My number one fear is the fear of failing. I took your Blog Mastery course to hopefully make me see that I can learn and may have something to offer. I am getting older and it has been a long time since I was in school but I am looking forward to this challenge.

I need this to make me succeed and to show myself that “I’m worth it”.

Thank you Katie, you really are an inspiration and congratulations for overcoming your #1 fear.

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Christiaan August 12, 2009 at 9:43 am

Yes it has been a challenge for me too katie
A few months ago i had a booth at the conscious life expo in LA
In order to have a booth there and sell my product
I had to do a lecture on that subject for 45-minutes
The whole thing freaked me out with just the idea of doing that
For even that long of time too. I had to do it to over come my fear and to stand up and be a leader for myself and others in my profession and my life. So i was featured in the expo magazine guide with my face on it along with some of the other seasoned and well know speakers it was truly a rush to do so. Unfortunately i did not record it even though i had the camera there i was to nervous to put it all together along with my power point presentation. After i spoke i felt a big relief of the anxiety leave my body,I wanted to do it again right away another talk if i could. I realized near the end of my lecture i was relaxed and having fun doing so and wanted to continue even after my 45-minutes were up. So its a matter of just doing it F.E.A.R = Face Everything And Recover.

Blessings Everyone Christiaan

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Omar Briones August 12, 2009 at 9:46 am

Katie, that was an awesome story! Glad to hear you were able to conquer your fear. I’m extremely proud of you! Wish I was there to congratulate you. Maybe next time…

I think Therese is on to something, saying yes to yourself, and completely eliminating the word no from your dictonairy could help a lot.

What I like to do (here’s another cool trick I use all the time) is meditate like you did with deep breathing through the nose, and visualizing what it would look like through your eyes to be in that situation…

And focus on One-Ness and Everything-Ness. You being one with everything and everyone…

Start off small by thinking about being one with one person or two, then gradually move on to ten, twenty, hundred, thousand, million, billion, trillion, zillion…

Till you come to the full awareness that you are everything and everyone in the entire universe, and everyone and everything is one with YOU.

That’s just what I like to do personally; it gives me a sence of being on the same level as anyone and everyone, no matter how much ‘authority’ they have on this ‘physical’ planet.

As well as that blissful feeling of complete and utter freedom that you decribed. ;)

Look forward to reading more of your stuff; they really are some awesome posts. Definitely worth sharing!

Keep em coming Katie!
~Omar

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Frank Caban August 12, 2009 at 9:48 am

Congratulations Katie.
Now you can share your wonderful insights to huge Live crowds.
.-= Frank Caban´s last blog ..Hello world! =-.

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Naomi Kuipers August 12, 2009 at 9:49 am

Hi Katie Once again thank you for inspiring,congrats for facing your fear and overcoming it,that’s awesome. Stan & I have wanted to set up a blog page for quite awhile but that fear thing kept us back, fear of appearing stupid etc,we finally just did it and since you’re so good at it we would love some feedback when you have time & want to.
http://your-unlimited-prosperity.com I love this quote “What others think of me is none of my business.” Keep up the good work Naomi

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Ken Pickard August 12, 2009 at 10:01 am

Katie,

What an incredible testament to overcoming your fear. This post, needs and will, fly around the net to inspire countless others.

I used to tell people only a few years ago I could not lead you in silent prayer if it was just 2 of us in the same room. If I needed to cross a crowed room to exit or go to another room, I would freeze, wait or just hold it. I used to be so shy I would miss out on lots of things. I eventually started saying I can do this. I started to say yes to invitations. I started saying yes to what ever people would ask of me.

Being grounded, centered and focused on what your giving instead of what you think people are seeing… is truly freeing. We put those fears upon us, and we can take them off. It’s only a choice to do so.

Ken Pickard
The Network Dad
.-= Ken Pickard´s last blog ..KenPickard: Still on an amazing webinar with @jonathanbudd re:hub pages. Over 2 hours and 9 pages of notes. Hand cramping but feels good! =-.

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Johan August 12, 2009 at 10:06 am

The difference between, believing something and actually understand something know those who knows.
To understand fear, or life as one as equal as all, well words is just words until the human voice gives it meaning.

The feeling of understanding something from this innermost core gives one so much joy, happiness, love, understanding.

But to understand something is like learning a new language but once learned there is so much emotions and growth involved which gives one rebirths one after the other.

How do one face ones fear or come to an understanding?
It’s many ways it can be faced, since the human have built in like a belief system which goes much on autopilot and it’s like the human brain is only capable of accepting information and ideas whereof which follows ones own evolutionary process.

Alex, being an entrepreneur is infact something we think we are when we are infact not.
If one were to be something would it not be equal?
Is an entrepreneur equal to all?

“Teachers open the door, but you must enter by yourself.”
– Chinese Proverb

Common sense

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monica espinoza August 12, 2009 at 10:27 am

WOW! that was incredible! thanks so much for sharing!I have in my hands a business that I love for the good things that do for people, ordinary people that think that the world of finances are just for special people that have a special degree or in some grade are smarter, it is not true! any one can learn how money work, and to make money work for them, not for the banks!,I’m a crusader!, I know we can reverse what is not working for us in the financial world, knowledge is the secret!, and you are helping diferent people, with diferent interest to achieve anything we want.
FEAR is a big thing in my life! you are teaching me with your own experience, that this big monster can actually became something that is going to help us become stronger and more powerful, for me, personally this is BIG, I feel inspire to go on , and conquer THE MONSTER :), I believe in God and in His power and I’m so thankful you crossed my path, hope you continue inpiring people like me to do better and better!.
And I would like to tell the other people that made comments also: GOD BLESS YOU ALL AND LETS GO AND MAKE A DIFERENCE IN OTHER’S PEOPLE LIVES!

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kathy jodrey August 12, 2009 at 10:33 am

Hey Katie,

Who would have ever thought that you had any fear inside you? Your poise and confidence radiate in everything you do. I’ve heard it said that the number 1 fear people have is being trapped in a burning building, the number 2 fear is public speaking!

I’m so happy that you’ve conquered this. You’re an amazing inspiration to us all!

One of my recent fears, and something I’ve been procrastinating on, is doing video for my blog. My talents lie much more with the written word than in speaking, and I’ve been afraid of how I’ll look on video. I’m happy to say that I just did my first video, it’s not exceptional but it’s a start. Will be posting it on my blog soon, and plan to continue to resolve this and other fears that plague me.

Thanks for everything you contribute – you rock!

Namaste,
Kathy Jodrey
.-= kathy jodrey´s last blog ..MLM Guaranteed Income of $10K in 1 Year – Yes, Ten Thousand Dollars Guaranteed! =-.

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Lauren August 12, 2009 at 10:36 am

Congrats and thank you for sharing your story with us, Katie! I remember hearing many times over the years that public speaking is the thing most people fear… even more than death! It seemed impossible until I realized the power of the ego. It can make any little situation into a fate that truly seems worse than death.

Stepping into my power has been a strong theme for me lately and I’m grateful for this synchronistic reminder. Here’s to all of us facing our fears and realizing how easy they are to overcome when we stay in the NOW and use LOVE.

Much love to you Katie, and everyone visiting this site. Have a blessed day!
.-= Lauren´s last blog ..Your Input is Vital =-.

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Vince Devereaux August 12, 2009 at 10:41 am

Reminds me about an article I wrote “Thinking your way to success”. Positive thoughts enable you to reach out and grasp the success you seek.

You can also use affirmations for this. Affirmations for success can help you change the way you think about everything. This way your inner dialogue will be about success and achievement.

Vince
.-= Vince Devereaux´s last blog ..How to Become a Strong Leader =-.

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CHA$E August 12, 2009 at 10:46 am

Congratulations:D) The next time you will acutally be looking forward to it. Hope to see you speak one day.

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Zac Settles August 12, 2009 at 10:58 am

They say the number one fear of Americans and most likely the world is public speaking. I would say the more people in the room, the more fearful that makes the experience.

It’s seems that in my past, when I have had a challenge and I was so scared before hand, after the experience I found myself asking, what was I so afraid of?

Lately I’ve been having those job interview fears, and in the past every interview that I have went on those fears crept in, but after the interview, I realized it really wasn’t worth the stress.

So Katie, way to go on your public speaking venture. Many people would have said no the second time around.

You are a true Inspiration!!

Rock On,
Zac

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Stephen T. Jones August 12, 2009 at 11:01 am

Hey Katie, This is awesome and very timely I have some projects that I am doing around promoting good in the world. If you feel inspired I would love to have you speak at them.

Peace and Abundance,

Stephen T. Jones
.-= Stephen T. Jones´s last blog ..Women of Destiny (Part 1) by Amuge Mary =-.

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Leelja August 12, 2009 at 11:07 am

Katie – your awesome story recalled memories of teaching many students in Germany in the time before I came to America; how to over come my own fear being on center stage and showing them how to do the same. Nowadays I am enjoying to be in center of attention LOL. However the growing process never ends.
In fall last year I stumbled more or less into MLM and was not very successful because of fear – I took the challenge to overcame these fears step-by-step and great coaches like you.
Thinking about these obstacles triggered also the inspiration to pick up my studies on Spirituality, Quantum Physics and MatrixEnergetics again.

Thanks for an inspiring morning. It is a pleasure to share it.

Namaste,
Leelja

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Paul August 12, 2009 at 11:13 am

Hi Katie,

Thanks so much for sharing your experience, your fear and how you were able to overcome…very inspiring!!!

My biggest fear is not speaking in public…I have a lot of that.. mine is writing..believe it or not…that is my biggest challenge in putting together my blog .. is the content..I may need to use more video.. still working on that..

Keep up the good work..

Paul

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Mel Dominguez August 12, 2009 at 11:24 am

Hi Katie,

Thank you for sharing this with everyone.

I have said before that you are an incredible leader, and you’re also one of my biggest inspirations.

When I first saw your blog, I decided to create mine and make it great also.

Now reading your story, also gives me power and confidence because I identify with your fears as well.

Sometimes we don’t realize that we can help others with simple things, like sharing a story, but the satisfaction when helping them, is great.

So, thanks Katie for helping me, because whether you know it or not, you have been an inspiration to me.

Your friend,

Mel =)
.-= Mel Dominguez´s last blog ..CommentLuv Plugin For Wordpress – Increase The Number Of Comments Left In Your Posts =-.

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David Galan August 12, 2009 at 11:31 am

That’s one of the most common fears. public speaking.

I found Toastmasters a great organization to help.
Endorsed by all famous speakers like Zig Ziglar.

-David G
http://www.davidrgalan.com
http://www.tiptopinternetmarketing.com
.-= David Galan´s last blog ..Muslims: What is the Islam version of the story of David and Goliath? =-.

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joseph young August 12, 2009 at 11:36 am

Hey Katie,
Amazing and courageous story! I know what it is like to have that fear and still do sometimes. But, the art of doing removes a lot of fear, especially when you do focus on what you have to offer. I would never have thought that you had that issue watching you online. But online is different than in person.

My fear…hmmm… I think, looking back has been the “unknown”. New territory, new things to learn, and actually seeing the dreams in your heart come to pass. Love always conquers fear. Faith and patience then begins the work without its distraction.

cheers,
joe

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Gil Pizano August 12, 2009 at 11:42 am

Great story Katie!

According to psychological studies, public speaking is the number 2 phobia (Death by fire is #1).

It is said that “A setback is a setup for a comeback” and you have shown it to be true. Congratulations and thank you for sharing your very inspirational story.

Best Regards,

Gil

http://www.gilpizano.com
.-= Gil Pizano´s last blog ..Networking and People =-.

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Jack Mowrey August 12, 2009 at 12:09 pm

One of the best books I every read that relates to exactly what you had to work on and over come is by Dr. Maxwell Maltz titled “Psycho-Cybernetics”. This book was written years ago, but the newest updated version, published after his death, is “The New Psycho-Cybernetics”. Put the techniques he writes about into action, and see the results in your own life.

He was a plastic surgeon. Many of his examples relate to how his patients were able to over come the fear of they perceived others saw their physical appearance. After he improved their appearance with surgery, their whole outlook on life change. He then took all those experiences and related it to how “mental fears” can be over come by performing “surgery” on your subconscious by practicing many of his techniques.

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Bernadette August 12, 2009 at 12:43 pm

Katie,

That is so awesome! Congratulations!!!

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Fonz van der Linden August 12, 2009 at 1:01 pm

Hello Katie,

Thank you so much for your super inspiring words.
After I read your post, immediately I started to write down my
biggest fears. Yes, there were more then one biggest fear..
THAT was a real eye opener for me katie!

Thank you again Katie, you make a different…!

Fonz

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Ted Cook August 12, 2009 at 1:08 pm

Hi Katie,

One of the things I most appreciate in a mentor is when they show their imperfections to you.

When you are following someone who even in the midst of great success and accomplishment shows you they can be every bit as human as the newest newbie in some way, it’s powerfully encouraging to know that you don’t have to be perfect or even appear perfect in order to succeed.

Your greatest fear may have been public speaking, but your greatest contribution may just be in how couragous you are in sharing something like this with your readers, allowing them to see that accomplished people have fears just like they do.

I know this weekend must have made you feel incredibly empowered, and congratulations on climbing that mountain…I know you must have been on a super high the rest of the day!

But what you just did in this post could empower many others who are exposed to it…and don’t we always say it’s how much you give out that determines your true value?

Attagirl, keep being you.

Best Regards,

Ted

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Rose Goddess August 12, 2009 at 1:19 pm

Oh Katie!
Thank you for sharing your story!
It’s truly inspiring . . .
The best part is how open you are about it. I feel so much more connected to you now because of your willingness to be transparent and real. Thank you!
Debbie
.-= Rose Goddess´s last blog ..Yes Man – Cosmic Concept for Inviting Abundance =-.

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Juan Carlos Torrico August 12, 2009 at 1:30 pm

Thank you very much sweet Kathy, really a real story.
Kinds Regards
Juan Carlos Torrico, from Santiago de Chile

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August 12, 2009 at 3:53 pm

Dear Katie,
Dear all the people who have resonded to this post! I have had tears in my eyes reading these post comments and goose-bumps all over!

Who would have thought that you would have this fear too, being so poised, elegant, and movie star beautiful.

You are a treasure, a gem, and I am so grateful for everything you are teaching those of us who resonate with you!

One of my big fear’s is getting my wordpress blog up and running! I keep stumbling across blocks to the most basic of set up issues, so I just leave it in the “too hard” basket.

I will tackle it again today, with thanks to all the energy and inspiration I have seen here in this post, and all the responses. xxx

Thankyou!

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Damayanthi August 12, 2009 at 4:14 pm

Hello Katie,
This is truly inspirational.
I have heard that the fear of public speaking is only second to the fear of death.
Unless we tackle them head on we will never do them.
We are so fearful of what “others” think and say – meaning we are concentrating on ourselves not on the people who are going to listen to us.

When you concentrated on giving the best value to people who came to listen to you, you take your mind off yourself.

What a great lesson Katie.. as always.

I am so grateful that I got connected to you.

Damayanthi

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Rosina Wilson August 12, 2009 at 5:47 pm

Katie, this is so incredibly inspiring! Having heard your group presentations, I would *never* have guessed that you were even the slightest bit nervous. What a monumental accomplishment – congratulations!

Cheers,
Rosina
.-= Rosina Wilson´s last blog ..Hello world! =-.

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Ian Brown August 12, 2009 at 7:13 pm

Katie
What guts!

You were fully aware of the fear, you tried to face it and it got the better of you.

That stops many ever trying to face the fear again.

Yet you overcame that and you summoned the courage to face the fear again. This time you nailed it and the fear was gone forever. Awesome!

You are an inspiration to us all. Congrats.

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Tanya August 12, 2009 at 8:11 pm

Hi Katie,
Your experience is very notorious. I know so many people, me included, who have similar fears to speak on public.
Thank you for sharing all details of how you were able to overcome it. Very inspiring and encouraging!

Warmest regards,
Tanya

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Michele Spence August 12, 2009 at 10:05 pm

Great post Katie. I have this same fear and it is tough to get over. I know I need to do webinars for my list and something (fear)has been keeping me from it. After reading your post I know I need to just “do it”!
.-= Michele Spence´s last blog ..Top Blogging Sites: How to Get There =-.

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Fath Ridwan Basalamah August 12, 2009 at 10:31 pm

Thanks!
Great post from nice person.
Actually FEAR is NORMAL FEELING when it is on RIGHT PLACE.
But when we fear that we SHOULD NOT to fear, then it becomes
ABNORMAL, so we have to overcome it, i.e: do we like to have a job which we should appear in the front of public like public speaking, or it is an obligation as a part of our career?
Then it is the time TO LEARN, FOR SURE if we have strong will WE CAN DO IT, NO DOUBT about it.
But how about if we AFRAID TO LEARN?
AFRAID TO LEARN is ABNORMAL FEELING and it is the sign of BEHAVOIR DISORDER, in this case Katie Freiling’s class won’t even help! How can somebody afraid to learn?

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Glenn Arcaro August 12, 2009 at 11:19 pm

That’s fantastic Katie,
I have gone through the same thing myself with regards to being in front of the camera. It’s always good to know that you’re not alone.

Good post!

Glenn

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R. Michael Norman August 12, 2009 at 11:47 pm

Hi Katie! :D

I am VERY pleased for you! I, too, have a BIG

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R. Michael Norman August 12, 2009 at 11:56 pm

Hi Katie! :D

I am VERY pleased for you! I, too, have a BIG fear of public speaking; and, hopefully, I won’t have to face it! ;)

But, my biggest fear is being more than 4 stories up in a high rise in earthquake country! I tried to overcome it many years ago by going to the top of the B of A building in San Francisco. I stayed up there for about 20 minutes, looking over the city and bay, and sucked down 2 Tequilla Sunrises (they had a bar up there) during that time. I then PROMPTLY retreated back to ground floor, thinking I didn’t do much for the fear…

I’ve since been on the 29th floor of a hotel in Reno and the 18th floor of a hotel in San Diego with [virtually] no problems! Now, I don’t know if I’ve overcome the fear or what, but, at least I have a chance to be free of the fear I had there.

Public speaking?… hhmmmmm, we’ll see.

Thanks so much for your inspiring story of conquering fear. And, a belated thank you for your video about loving ourselves!!!

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Bryan McHeyzer August 13, 2009 at 3:28 am

Hey Katie,
Way to go …must fell a million dollars.
I too look forward to facing my fear of public speaking in the near future.
Have fun
Bryan
.-= Bryan McHeyzer´s last blog ..Noni Juice. =-.

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David Kelsey August 13, 2009 at 5:11 am

Katie,
Yippee my friend. I am so proud of you. As a WITNESS to the entire experience with you live and being in the room, you were absolutely fabulous, as I have already told you. I want to tell you again, because, that day was huge. Your authenticity, heart and compassion coupled with your knowledge and willingness to learn and then share is an inspiration and example of GREAT leadership. See you tonight in the Blog Mastery Course!!!
Love and Light,
David
.-= David Kelsey´s last blog ..NFL Superbowl MVP Partners With Genewize =-.

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Ciprian Bud August 13, 2009 at 5:16 am

Dear Katie I have to say that this post it’s so inspirational that I don’t know how to express myself.
Anyway I remembered that in the past one of my fears was talking to a girl even if I wanted so bad to have a girlfriend.But this all changed after I saw the movie “The Secret-Law of attraction” and start applying what it says in the movie.Now I have to say that I’m in my 4th relantionship and I’m very happy because I overcame that fear.
Another fear of mine is starting a business online even if I want to so bad for over 2 years from now.It’s like I’m too lazy,I’m expecting some get rich quick program or something.I know the principles to start my business and now I want to start a blog but I’m scared that I won’t know what to write and things like that.
But good news!!!Thanks to you dear Katie that all is about to change,because I simply took your story to heart and really impresed me and if other people can create a blog why shouldn’t I.
So thanks again Katie for the great knoledge you share with us.

Have a wonderful day,
Ciprian

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Preston August 13, 2009 at 7:56 am

Nice, real live example if using power of mind.Nice way to conquer challenges.
Preston

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