Are You Hiding Behind a “Mask”? The Truth About Authenticity…

Let me ask you… What “masks” do you put on and hide behind in your life?

Are you afraid to speak your truth when you know it might be upsetting to someone else?  Do you pretend to be confident when deep inside you feel insecure and unsure of yourself?  Do you speak and act differently around certain people to gain their approval and acceptance?

When we are wearing a “mask”, whether we’re conscious of it or not, we feel isolated, fearful, and out of integrity because we are not allowing our true self to come out.  We are hiding… And not only does this keep us from experiencing fulfillment in relationships or creating the success we’re looking for in life… But we end up living in a state of internal struggle and pain. We can’t possibly be truly authentic because we are molding ourselves to be the “person” that others will love, accept, and approve of.

I was inspired to make this video today because Halloween is coming up soon… But it’s an extremely powerful message that is applicable and appropriate any time of the year!  So click play on the video below to  hear more about how the many masks we wear can destroy our sense of authentic confidence and how to put the mask down and let the REAL you come out to play!

When we look to others to give us love and approval, we have lost awareness of our own self love and self acceptance.  Wearing a mask, or presenting a “contrived version” of yourself to gain approval from others keeps us in a state of internal struggle… And even when we “get” the approval we think we’re looking for, it’s never enough… Because only through true self acceptance and love can we come into full awareness of our own worth, beauty, and power.

So are there any masks you’ve worn in the past that you’d like to share with us here today? Or any new realizations of masks you didn’t even know you were wearing?  And even if you just want to share your Halloween mask (or costume) this year with us, I’d love to hear from you!  So leave a comment below and please make sure you help spread this message today by sharing it on Facebook and/or Twitter.

Have an amazing Halloween!  And remember… How can you be the REAL you even underneath your costume or mask this year?  Because the real you is perfect, complete, and beautiful just as you are!


To The “Authentic You”,

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anne marie October 30, 2010 at 8:29 pm

Thank you Katie, for sharing your personal story through this message, it resonates with me and is my ‘program’ as well.
It was wonderful to hear this coming from, keeps me inspired to stay authentic because there is freedom on the other side….

anne marie


Tina October 30, 2010 at 11:44 pm

Bravo Katie,
I was just like you and it took so long to find the real me… and it is always a work in process. Pleasing others is exhausting.
Thank you for the reminder to remove the masks we sometimes put on still.
Love your work!
Happy Halloween :)
Cheers from Tina


Elmar Sandyck October 31, 2010 at 2:02 am

Hi Katie!

Thanks for the reminder about being true to ourselves. It’s a good affirmation that in our own little world and in our quest for success, we don’t lose sight of who we really are. We should start being authentic with ourselves and this translates to everything that we do.

Happy Halloween!
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claude shama October 31, 2010 at 3:08 am

Hi Katie,

Loved the post and the clarity you have around that. Essence, being, authenticity are all names for the very same quality that we all have. It takes guts, it takes clarity, and it takes time spent alone for that to reveal itself; to be uncovered. At least that has been my experience.

You Katie are a wonderful expression of your own authenticity, you know that all personal power resides right there, in the moment. This is the message for all of us, here and now, accepting ourselves just as we are. This is a profound understanding to be repeated over and over and reflected upon. This is where love resides, this is who we are; this is a simple acknowledgment of the true nature of self.

I read every comment and was was touched by every contribution… Thank you all for the community that is here.


Monica Beltran November 9, 2010 at 4:29 pm

I couldn’t agree more with your Claude. It takes guts and time to alone to get clear in who we are and where we are heading. And of course, I agree with you about Katie being a wonderful expression of her own authenticity. Thank you to the community here, it is really awesome.
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Fathi Ridwan Basalamah October 31, 2010 at 3:42 am

Of course..Katie…we use our mask daily…sometimes this..sometimes that…that’s what we are exactly….because we have to….anyway…….The questions is how sometime we have return to our authenticity ?…..or we even lost ourselves ? Then there are no problems….. as long as we are happy inside…..or just get lost that’s all…..:)


Robert Dorsey October 31, 2010 at 10:12 am

Hi Katie. How true we all wear masks of one kind or another. I lived my life for a long time being who I thought everyone else thought I should be. I called it living a life of expectations: people I knew expected me to act in a certain way, do things in a certain way, relate to them in a certain way. Then on day I woke up and I realized this was not me. I changed and wouldn’t you know it. Nobody knew me. Friends were mad, family were mad, work associates were mad. I lost nearly every contact I had as someone who knew the old me and now they didn’t know who I had become. But I was free. I knew myself now and would not go back to that other person, whoever he was, for anything. I has been twenty years now living my own life and enjoying life for myself. Thanks for the great content you always share and for the chance to tell my story to you. You have a great weekend.
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Damayanthi October 31, 2010 at 2:35 pm

Hi Katie

What a great post. I do agree with you so much & I do have a few masks that I put on time to time. Sometimes I don’t want to hurt a loved one, & it can be a cultural or religious thing.
I can relate to what you say of being having the feeling of ‘trapped’ & need a tremendous courage to get out of that.

Any suggestion to improve my situation will be of tremendous help.

Have a wonderful day Katie & as always
I appreciate you :)

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Henway October 31, 2010 at 2:41 pm

This message really resonated with me. When I’m around some friends, I’m afraid to speak my mind, and always am afraid of saying something controversial. I’m afraid to ask questions that would enable me to learn more about life, and themselves. Thanks for bringing up such an important question!
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Barbara Dutton October 31, 2010 at 5:48 pm

True message. Thanks, Katie for sharing.


Ciprian Bud November 1, 2010 at 6:26 am

Great message Katie,
I remember that in the past I always wanted to please everyone and of course that I couldn’t do it.This was a fight against myself that last for about 6 years.
I’m so happy that now I’ve came outside of the box and I can finally enjoy this amazing journey called LIFE.

Have a great week!


tanisha November 1, 2010 at 12:23 pm

This is a great point wow blew my mind, the mask is what everyone is hiding behind and you just gave me some more info to build my article…..thanks Katie
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Lindsey Tibesar November 1, 2010 at 12:35 pm

Thanks, Katie for this powerful reminder to be who we are. I consider myself a straight shooter and think that I am always being who I am, however I realize when I stop and think about certain situations, that I do in fact act differently. That is not what I stand for, and who I wish to be…So, again what a great reminder today, and always to know that I am perfect, beautiful and worthy just the way that I am. I thank you for all your insight and for all the things we have been working on in my life and business that I know will begin to manifest into powerful changes in my life!

You are the best!


George Rojas November 1, 2010 at 2:27 pm

Great stuff Katie! You always provide such valuable content! Smart and beautiful!


Jaimee Rahl November 1, 2010 at 7:39 pm

Hi Katie,

I’ve been following your blog for some time now and you continue to inspire me. I know exactly what you mean by growing up shy, and having to take the time to really find yourself underneath all the masks we are conditioned to wear from such a young age.

I’m just beginning my journey of self-discovery now, but it fills me with hope see yourself at the other end, knowing I can make it there, too.

Happy Halloween, all the way from Australia :)

— Jaimee Rahl


Jackie Hall November 2, 2010 at 6:53 am

Powerful video Katie. Thank you!


Curt Bizelli November 2, 2010 at 10:41 am

Hi Katie, I’m happy I stopped by over here. I completely agree. Acceptance is key to authentic self confidence. That’s acceptance in yourself. I was actually very much like how you describe when I was younger. I was very shy; didn’t talk much. It took me quite awhile to really find my place in this world. :-)
Blessings Katie! Curt
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Kareem Williams November 2, 2010 at 4:57 pm

This post was a eye opener Kate. A lot of people need to read this post.George said it best, You always provide such valuable content and that is awesome.
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Maria Eves November 2, 2010 at 6:00 pm

Katie thankyou for shareing and what a wonderful topic.
I guess we all grow up with this mask. As we get older we get better and better at what we do.

What a beautiful person Katie and special message for all!!

Kia ora!

Maria Eves


Timothy Norton November 3, 2010 at 5:09 am

I grew up very shy. The 2 things that helped me overcome shyness were playing in a rock band and a stint as a night club bouncer. You can’t be shy when playing the guitar in front of hundreds of people. You also CANNOT be timid when you have to tell an intoxicated 300 pound man to get out! LOL!

Thanks, Katie!


jp November 3, 2010 at 8:25 am

Great video and topic Katie! Probably one of the more difficult things for us to overcome. For years the mask I have have been wearing is one that makes me appear to be more successful than I really am… I think part of that is my unending desire to live the life I want but more so I didn’t want to look like I was unsuccessful to others. Now, it’s all about being true to myself and OK with me no matter what place I am at. And since that awareness, it has been so much easier to attract the things I do want in life!

Thanks for all you do!

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Antoine Grant November 4, 2010 at 9:51 am

Great video Katie!I like the fact that you posted this right before Holloween….which is my favorite holiday by the way!

I think we all have put on a mask in our daily lives in one way or another, and based on my own experience…..i would have to say that it feels very uncomfortable when you’re trying to be something that you’re not.

Everything just feels comfortable when you’re being 100% you. I will be sure to pass this one along to all my friends. :-)


Antoine Grant


Elin Larsson November 4, 2010 at 10:52 am

I agree so much with you Katie. Being aware of our masks and ask ourself this questions are so important. And it also makes us think about our own responsibility of being clear to others and to ourselves of who we really are. Thanks! :)


Caroline November 6, 2010 at 7:49 am

Great video Katie, thanks for sharing, it’s so true what you’re saying.
I can easily recognize myself as a teenager in what you’re describing. During those years, I always used to put on a mask because I wanted others approval, I wanted to be liked etc and in the end I didn’t know anymore who I really was, what my true values, opinions were etc. And like you say, it’s painful to be like this and it’s not easy to get out of it. But I totally agree with you that it’s necessary to stop putting on a mask and be the real person you are deep inside to be happy and feel good about yourself.


Darren kinvig November 7, 2010 at 9:48 pm

Hi Yes I understand what you are saying because I was the very same way as you and WOW did it ever get in my way. To break free of that is true happiness in dealing with the world and the people in it. Thanks for the reminder



Curtis Weeks November 17, 2010 at 1:29 pm

Hi Katie,
OMG!!! Well that was very illuminating. That’s totally what’s been going on with me. And oddly enough underneath I know it’s going on. It’s just a habit. So thanks for bringing that to light in me. As you say it’s all about awareness.


Laticia November 20, 2010 at 7:15 pm


Great message! Here’s being free!
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Matt Zavadil November 29, 2010 at 10:27 am

This is absolutely true! It’s when we look inside and understand WHO we are that our lives open up. Especially in your business…you’ve got to be who you are, rather than trying to do what you somebody else doing. Once you just be YOU, you attract the right people who are meant to hear your message. Great message. Thanks…
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Guts N Glam December 4, 2010 at 7:32 am

What a great post…. I admit that I hide especially to what had happened to me before but I know that I will be the only one suffering in the end.

Thanks for this post!


Aki Wood January 18, 2011 at 8:06 pm

I love Halloween, it’s my favorite holiday. I agree on most accounts; I do find sometimes that it isn’t worth speaking out because it will just end up in a useless argument.

There is no use wrestling a pig, because you both get dirty, and the pig likes it.

Good stuff though Katie.
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