How To Become A True Leader, Part 1: Leading YOU!

June 19, 2009

Developing yourself into a TRUE LEADER and into someone ‘worth’ following’ is one of the most important, most crucial growth milestones you will ever have in your entrepreneurial life.  It’s ONLY the people who have the courage and the commitment to themselves and their own personal journey of growth and development who create success… period.  So what does it take to become a true leader?  Well, before you can lead anyone else to success, you have to learn how to lead yourself first and foremost… So this video below is the vital first step towards true empowerment and leadership cultivation:

As I talk about in the video, the 3 steps towards learning how to become a powerful leader for YOURSELF are:

1.  Knowing Your Own Self Worth ~ If you don’t believe that you are valuable, no one else will either.  Becoming confident in your ability to provide real value to other people is the foundation of all leadership.  Even if you’re new, you can still trust in your own capabilities to learn and grow and share those experiences with others.

2.  Focus on Growth and Embrace Challenges ~ True leaders do NOT run from challenges… They confront their fears and insecurities head on and gladly accept any challenge that may come their way.  They know that this is the ONLY way they will get better at what they do and grow into a more powerful human being.

3.  Self-Discipline and Commitment ~ Being capable of ‘leading yourself ‘ means you are capable of practicing self-discipline.  True leaders have learned how to become self-disciplined in their own right and have an unwavering commitment to their own success. Setbacks and ‘seeming failures’ are only seen as challenges for growth and they never give up on their goals.  (Learn More About Self-Discipline HERE).

Personal leadership is something that most people tend to skip over when they are looking to become successful entrepreneurs or network marketers… But clearly, it is the underlying groundwork for any type of success and must be cultivated!

(Go here to read part 2:  How to Become A True Leader, Part 2:  Leading Your Team)

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Tal Fighel June 19, 2009 at 5:17 pm


Great article. I totally agree with the part that true leaders don’t run away from challanges but they face it.




TJ Chambers July 21, 2010 at 12:39 am

Challenges and problems are opportunities to conquer. Opportunities allow you to be creative to bring about solutions.

That is exactly what people look for. I be that is the majority of searches on the internet and shows on tv, solutions.

Leaders are solution providers. So you start by practicing in your own life.
.-= TJ Chambers´s last blog ..Jul 14- Network Marketing Consultant for MLM Help =-.


Shaylee Gregg June 19, 2009 at 5:31 pm

Great post Katie! Looking forward to Part 2!

I also left you a message the other day! Let me know if you’d like to schedule a time to chat!


Sean Smith June 19, 2009 at 5:58 pm

Yet again, Katie, great advice and so very, very true!

Leadership and self-discipline must first be developed from within to truly achieve the success you so desire.

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Jason Croxford June 19, 2009 at 6:01 pm

Very true Katie – To be a leader you must accept yourself as a leader! Great content as always!


wfred June 19, 2009 at 6:47 pm

Katie, you are doing great work and I look forward to each new post. The first time I managed a night club on Bourbon St, I was 22. I was lucky to work for a chain called Your Fathers Mustache ( ) and had a great managers manual. The first line of the managers manual stated ” you must understand you are working for your employies, only by your employies succeding will you succed.”
It then said that a leader is not a person that does things but a person that gets things done. The manual then said that the only way to lead is by setting an example, for what you do your employies will do. So by looking at the actions of your employies you see yourself. Fred


Esther Braden June 19, 2009 at 7:08 pm

“First You have to know how to lead Yourself.”

This post was exactly what i needed since some days:)
Thank you for joining my path, Katie!


Eric Solomon June 19, 2009 at 7:53 pm

Hi Katie,
Once again you have provided a post filled with genuine content that is valid, inspiring and motivating. It goes without saying by now that anything you post will have outstanding content. We’ve all come to know this about you.

But I am in total awe of your ability to turn out video after video, at the drop of a hat, that is a pure joy to watch. You are a complete “natural” in front of a camera, and I’m pretty sure you do each video in one flawless take. I’ve looked closely and there doesn’t seem to be any editing at all. That is absolutely awesome. (I’ll be emailing you more about that later tonight, as we discussed.) Perhaps you may want to do a blog series sometime on how you do that and how you regularly produce such flawless and amazing videos.

Here is a slightly different angle on what you said in Part 1 some of your other followers may find interesting or helpful. It’s called – How Big Is Your Cloth, from a little EBook I wrote called Gems Of light:

Are you setting your sights too low?
Are you selling yourself short because someone has convinced
you you’re not worth more?

Many years ago, my late father had an acquaintance who owned a
large, successful furniture factory. This was a real “rags-to-riches” story. He started out on a “shoestring” in his garage and eventually built a thriving business employing about 60 or 70 factory workers, salespeople and administration staff.
It must be said; this man – let’s call him Joe (not his real name)– didn’t achieve his success by being a “softy”. In fact he prided himself on being “as hard as nails”.

Joe honestly believed – or at least he had convinced himself, and on many occasions tried to convince me and anyone else who would listen to him – that people were only truly happy under some form of dictatorship . . . or at the very least, under an autocratic, “my-way-or-the-highway” kind of boss.

“Workers are only happy and secure if they are controlled with an iron hand,” was his credo and his work ethic. He was totally
convinced he was right. There was no room in his consciousness
for even the slightest possibility that he may ever be wrong.

In fact, Joe was so convinced he was right, he applied the identical “leadership philosophy” to his wife and family as well. His word was absolute, dictatorial. No discussion or negotiation. He wanted everyone to be totally dependent on him for everything. He even tried to control their way of thinking.

The tools he used to control everyone under his influence were his exceptionally forceful personality – and money. He made sure he paid all his employees (and his wife) just enough money each month so they could live – but not enough so they could have a life.

Amongst his many employees were his own younger brother and his
brother-in-law (his wife’s brother), who were two of the Sales Reps for the company. He also employed various other members of his family in administrative positions.

If one spoke to them privately, one heard an entirely different
opinion of Joe’s “leadership” methods. They resented and despised them. They were always complaining about Joe . . . but to each other, never to him. Rarely did anyone – not even his wife or brother – ever dare challenge Joe face-to-face.


Because he had done such an effective job of convincing everyone in his power that they were all but worthless, and that he was the only one “kind” enough to hire them, they were terrified to risk finding out he may be right. So while they cursed him, complained about his methods and were desperately unhappy, they continued to work for him, year after year, decade after decade.

One day, his brother plucked up the courage to ask for a raise. What with his bond, school fees and other expenses, he was struggling to make ends meet. Joe’s reply was curt and to the point. He fixed his brother with a hard, penetrating glare and said – “Forget it. You have to cut your suit to suit your cloth!”

That was it. End of discussion.
In other words, there was no way he was going to increase his
brother’s salary. He just had to figure out a way to “make do” with what he had.

“You have to cut your suit to suit your cloth.”
At first glance, that seems like sound, practical advice – don’t spend more than you earn. But what if the “cloth” is too small to make a suit that fits you? A second glance reveals this advice to be a trap, ensnaring you into a lifetime of frustration, lack, struggle and despair.

The answer?
Get a bigger piece of cloth!
Believe in yourself enough to reject someone who tells you you’re all but worthless – even if that someone is close to you. Especially if that someone is the person who looks back at you in the mirror – YOU!

Ever since hearing about Joe’s reply – which apparently was his
standard answer to anyone asking for a raise – I’ve often wondered how many people are walking around in “suits” that are too tight, or too short around the ankles, or that split at the seams every time they sit down, just because someone has convinced them they don’t deserve a “bigger piece of cloth.”

What we can do or become is usually limited more by the size of the “piece of cloth” in our own minds than by actual circumstances. Author Brian Tracy puts it this way: “You are not what you think you are, but what you think … you are.”

Think big thoughts. Aim at big targets. Dream big dreams … and strive for big results. It all begins with changing the size of your mental piece of cloth.
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Tanya June 19, 2009 at 10:06 pm

Thanks, Katie, this is very true and encouraging!
And you act marvelous in front of camera, like a movie star. I am just preparing myself to make my first video, it lasts for several weeks but I am still not ready yet…


Clyde Ensslin June 19, 2009 at 10:22 pm

Katie: Excellent post! As you say, practicing communication skills is one of the ways you add to the “value bank” inside yourself. As you show, body language is the strongest way to display your confidence in your self. Anyone looking for a great example of that should just study this video.


Maureen June 19, 2009 at 10:44 pm

This is a great topic Katie. Being a leader…developing yourself into a leader is a process. Everyone has their own pace. As long as someone consistently moves forward, they will gain momentum, knowledge and will have folks following. Looking forward to the next part-


Fathi Ridwan Basalamah June 20, 2009 at 5:55 am

Well, i always agree with you Katie, but anyway not everybody born as a leader, to be a leader is just about destiny when we face the big problems of our life that we have to lead ourselves first before we lead other people, and of course for the average person like me to be a good leader means i have to be a good followers first as well as i have to be a good listener first before to be a good speaker.


Gary June 23, 2009 at 2:38 pm

Leadership is an interesting subject, and certainly requires some personal development, even for those to which it comes naturally.

There are three areas of knowledge that a leader must possess.
1. You must know where you are.
2. You must know where you need to be.
3. You must know how to get from where you are to where you need to be.

Without that knowledge you will just be wandering around and probably getting lost.

A good leader also never abandons his followers. It is fun when the enterprise is growing, but markets eventually become saturated, and an enterprise will eventually reach a point where it must slow down, contract, or even close. A good leader will lead through the entire life cycle of an enterprise and not be a good time Charlie who jumps ship at the first sign of rough seas.


Gerlaine June 25, 2009 at 3:23 pm

These are great attributes for a leader. Knowing your self worth is a must for a leader. Without this aspect. There is no leadership!
.-= Gerlaine´s last blog ..3 Simple Ways to Promote Your Blog =-.


Quinn Coats June 25, 2009 at 7:37 pm

“Lead, Follow, or Get out of the way!” I’ve done two of these three things in my life already. It’s time to start meeting all challenges head on. Thanks for the great content Katie! It has inspired me, yet again, to continue my journey of growth and lead myself through any challenge that comes my way. Thanks again…:)



Jasmine June 27, 2009 at 4:50 am

Awesome message on personal growth. Learned something new!


Alexandra Pierre July 6, 2009 at 6:25 pm

Learning a lot from this. thank you
.-= Alexandra Pierre´s last blog ..How To Shape Your Beliefs To Get What You Want =-.


Ethan Lanagan July 16, 2009 at 8:31 pm

Leaders Lead from the Front!
.-= Ethan Lanagan´s last blog ..Stop Saying You Don’t Have Time to build your Network Marketing Biz! =-.


Susan Shaner July 29, 2009 at 3:46 pm

Hi Katie
I just came upon your blog today! How inspiring! I am in awe of your wisdom and competency – and at such a young age. You are a smart, beautiful and clearly competent young woman. Kudos to you for integrating all aspects of yourself to serve others in a big way. You are a great role model in today’s noisy online world.

Great content. Ultimately, what we all wrestle with is true self acceptance inside. This is the root.
One can have great packaging but if there is no integrity with the self love, the rest is technique and will eventually fall like a house of cards.
We are living in an age of integration – human hardware and software – integrating know how with pure motivations and emotions.
Love and blessings to you


Amanda October 1, 2009 at 8:45 pm

Hey Katie!
The three tips you outlined as being key components of a leader are wonderful! I have really had to take a deeper look at myself and begin to see myself as a true leader, someone who is wonderful no matter what others think. As a leader you will most definitely have to overcome challenges but challenges make you grow and evolve and become more knowledgeable! That is one of the reasons I decided to create my 7 day Video Training Series entitled ‘Leadership In Online Marketing’! I love sharing my honesty and leadership with people I meet online!

Thanks again for the wonderful information!
Yours in Growth,
.-= Amanda´s last blog ..SuperQuick Tip Of The Week – You, Inc. =-.


Jason Kerchner December 9, 2009 at 6:15 pm

You are right on, Katie. If you don’t have the discipline to achieve your goals, then you certainly won’t have the discipline to lead others to a common goal!

Leaders have to facilitate finding solutions. No one wants to follow someone who runs from challenges.

If you can do these two things, then I think you will already have a pretty good level of self-worth. Those two skills bring success, and success brings confidence. And that confidence leads to a feeling of self-worth.
.-= Jason Kerchner´s last blog ..The Three Disguises of an Excuse =-.


Shannon Tecson March 10, 2010 at 2:12 am

Thanks Katie,
All three steps are in my daily routine. They weren’t always in my daily routine, but with consistent and persistent personal growth, I’ve reached the place of daily practice. Now as a leader, I still hear that sometimes troublesome voice that would love to victor over, but like you said, leaders are capable of practicing self-discipline until it becomes a habit. While I’m still hearing the voice that says “today is raining, it’s cold outside, you don’t have to go on your morning walk”…while I’m hearing this, I’m already putting on my shorts and drinking my tea. The leader always wins! Same with going out and lead prospecting for me…
.-= Shannon Tecson´s last blog ..A Lesson Taken From The Movie "Alive" =-.


Garrett Miller March 15, 2010 at 3:09 pm

Right on Katie… This is one of my favorite posts of yours! Empowering stuff!

.-= Garrett Miller´s last blog ..How Were You Purple Today? =-.


Chuck Bluestein May 23, 2010 at 7:38 pm

There must be a better system than leaders and followers. For example with you and Johnathan Budd, which one of you is the leader and which one of you is the follower? Isn’t leading about having followers or is there a way to lead without followers?
.-= Chuck Bluestein´s last blog ..Senator Arlen Specter =-.


Francesco May 31, 2010 at 2:58 am

When you are able to lead your own thoughts, you are the leader of everything that is worth leading…YOURSELF. Everything flows and The only thing you can be in control of are your own thoughts and feelings. :)
.-= Francesco´s last blog ..Why are you so beautiful? Because I’m happy! =-.


Jennifer May July 12, 2010 at 11:49 pm

Hi Katie! I definitely agree with you on these three components of True Leadership. We need to Lead By Example and to do that… these three are crucial to successfully doing that.

Leadership is something we choose to bring out and your self worth is so important to this. If you do not have confidence in yourself, no one else will. But man, oh man when you DO have the self worth and confidence than others will have that for you also!

Laws of Attraction work wonderfully in this aspect… or any aspect of your life for that matter. But the biggest thing I always remember is I bring into my life what I feel, think and am… you will attract those you want to work with, be around and build friendships with. Just be exactly who you want to be around! :) Great stuff Katie… going to read part two now…
.-= Jennifer May´s last blog ..My Top 5 Tips On Overcoming Any Fear How I Overcame My Own Fear Of Video Marketing =-.


Luis September 11, 2010 at 12:00 pm

Hi Katie,

This video is great I can not wait to see part 2.


Luis October 4, 2010 at 10:30 pm

This awesome Katie. Thank you
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Carlos M. October 4, 2010 at 10:31 pm

There is none stop learning from you
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