A Story That Will Warm Your Heart

April 9, 2009

I want to share a story with you today that really touched my heart… And I think it’ll really open your eyes to what success in this industry is really all about and in turn, help you to evolve into a much more powerful entrepreneur.

You see, in the world of online marketing, where there is a big focus on lead generation, sales, and generating profits… It can be easy to forget something very important.

It can be easy to forget that you’re dealing with REAL PEOPLE. People with real feelings, emotions, people with different personalities, different ways of relating to the world, and different reasons for starting a home business.  And deep down, all of these people are looking to be understood… They are looking for people they can relate to and feel connected to.

When someone feels like they are aligned with who you are and that you actually CARE about their success, they are so much more likely to partner up with you.

This industry is all about RELATIONSHIPS. And when interacting with business partners, customers, and clients, your focus should be all on them.  Take the time to figure out how you can be of service to them, how you can help them, and how you can better their lives in some way.

In order to do this, you must first put yourself in their shoes. This is called EMPATHY.  Empathy is the ability to recognize or understand another person’s state of mind, feeling, or emotion. And this is where the real ‘bond’ in relationships happens.

The story I want to share with you today is a true story about empathy… So take a few moments, sit down, relax, and enjoy… icon smile A Story That Will Warm Your Heart

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Up in the Himalayan Mountains, there once lived a Japanese Sage… He was someone who had dedicated his life to enlightenment, so he lived alone up on a mountain top and meditated all day long.

Occasionally, he would come down from the mountain into the valley to gather food and visit his relatives. One day, while down in the valley, his sister came up to him completely distraught. She was full of anger, anxiety, and sadness over her teenage boy.

Her adolescent son was a big trouble maker. He was getting in trouble at school, lashing out at his family, and engaging in self-destructive behavior. No one in the family could get through to him and he was causing the whole family to suffer.

The Sage was asked by his sister to come visit the boy and talk to him. Since he was known for his ‘enlightened consciousness’ and compassion, she figured he was the only one who could help.

So the Sage agreed and came to live with his sister for a while. He ate dinner with them, helped with the household chores, and did just about everything BUT talk to the young boy.  He ended up staying there for two weeks just observing the dynamics of the household. After two whole weeks, his sister started to get angry.

“Why haven’t you had a talk with my son yet?”, she asked. The Sage simply told her that there was nothing to say.

The boy was also very confused. He knew that his Uncle was asked to come visit to have some sort of talk with him about his behavior.  The Sage decided it was time to go, so he went back into his room to get his shoes. As he was sitting on the edge of his bed tying his shoelaces, the boy came and sat down in front of him.

The boy stared at his Uncle for a few moments waiting for some kind of response. The Sage looked up from tying his shoes with tears streaming down his face.  He just looked into the boys eyes with love, not saying a word. The emotion was so intense, that the boy started crying, too.

The Sage cried for his nephew. He cried because he felt the pain the young boy was going through. He physically felt the feelings of being so lost, so disconnected from oneself, and feeling so unloved.  The boy wasn’t misbehaving just to be malicious. He was acting out because he was in pain.

No one else in the family understood this. They all saw him as a nuisance, as someone who was causing THEM pain and suffering. They could not see past their own self-centeredness.  They never stopped to empathize with where he was coming from… And this lack of understanding just made everything worse.

Staring speechlessly into the teary eyes of his Uncle, the boy felt understood for the first time in his life.  He knew the Sage wasn’t crying because of his bad behavior… He was empathizing with his own suffering. For a moment, they both felt the same pain.

From that point on, the boy changed. He had been running from his own pain and acting out because he was avoiding it.  His Uncle inspired him and helped him actually ‘feel’ the hurt that was inside. The unconditional love and compassion that he felt from the Sage changed his life. The Sage not only helped the boy more than anyone thought possible, but he also helped the rest of the family.

He taught them what true empathy really is…

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You don’t need to be a Sage to practice empathy for others. We, as human beings, have such a deep capacity for love and compassion… I think most of us just forget it’s there sometimes.

I hope this story opened your heart a little today!  When you have empathy and understanding for those in your life, your relationships will blossom.

I don’t know about you, but I’m really looking to create a paradigm shift in the business world. A shift away from selfishness and greed, and a movement towards true empathy, compassion, and comradery.

We can do so much good for the world when we stop thinking so much about ourselves, and start putting ourselves in the shoes of those we serve.

Feel free to share this story with anyone you care about! And make sure you leave me a comment below to share your thoughts…

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Charles April 12, 2009 at 2:30 am

Great story. Really sums it up. Without empathy and openess we lack true connection, and cover the “heart-connection” that is the greatest kind of joy, in any context. Thank You!

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Norma April 19, 2009 at 9:52 pm

Awesome story. Even as a teacher, sometimes we tend to forget to put myself in students’ shoes and become overwhelmed with the “misbehavior” at hand…thanks for the reminder. :0)

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Keion Boyde May 10, 2009 at 5:43 am

Wow that was a great story. You know its an awesome thing when you can teach someone without words and understand them by feeling their pain, even if its for a moment.

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Kayla May 13, 2009 at 6:49 am

Thank You, Katie, for sharing this Beautiful story. What a reminder for the power of compassion and true empathy for one another. I will take this to heart. :)

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Diana Bekkerman May 21, 2009 at 4:18 am

This story did open my heart, and oh – I feel so aligned with your purpose to bring light into this world. Me too, I feel I’m part of the same movement – my purpose is to make this world a better, brighter, more beautiful place. Thank you for speaking your truth.

Diana

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Prisqua May 23, 2009 at 12:21 am

awwww thank you!

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joy May 28, 2009 at 4:52 pm

hey katie

What a beautiful story. I have empathy and it is sometimes not easy, My little nephew has empathy at the very tender age of 8 he was helping a handicapped girl in the pool and staying with her making her feel completly safe. The teachers questioned his parents on where he got this behaviour from. And of coures they had no idea even what she was referring to. I told them that is empathy and in someone so young it is a treasure. Then had to explain to them what empathy was. so many people think that is is like sympathy and it really is not.
Anyhow thanks for the story keep up the great work

Joy

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Chris Goodwin June 29, 2009 at 4:07 pm

Awesome story. Thanks for sharing.

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KonstantinMiller July 6, 2009 at 6:14 pm

I think I will try to recommend this post to my friends and family, cuz it’s really helpful.

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Jessica Asthma Treatment July 9, 2009 at 5:55 pm

Thanks Katie! Thanks for sharing this beautiful story. I am really impress and appreciated you ———-

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carry321 September 10, 2009 at 1:51 pm

Thank you Katie.

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carry321 September 10, 2009 at 1:54 pm

Katie,
I’ve felt others pain but I don’t think it was like Sage.
This is truly beautiful.

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carry321 September 10, 2009 at 2:00 pm

Katie,
I’ve felt others pain but I don’t think it was like Sage’s
Thanks again

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carry321 September 10, 2009 at 2:01 pm

Wow Katie,
I’ve felt others pain but I don’t think it was like Sage’s.

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Kimberly Castleberry January 18, 2010 at 12:00 pm

What a powerful story! It gave me “truth bumps” (You know, like goosebumps but only when something resonates so deeply that you get a physical response to it…) Sometimes its hard to remember not to turn our empathic gifts aside. We live in a world that is fast, sterile, disconnected and favors a defensive stance. To love from a state of vulnerability often challenges us. Thanks for reminding us why it’s so important!
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Kimberly Castleberry January 18, 2010 at 12:03 pm

I accidently hit send before finishing that thought!

It’s incredibly important that we remember that each of us has the same capacity to experience empathy that that sage did. Its not an isolated trait. All of us can reach deep within and connect with another person from a state of love. Once you make it a habit, it allows you to look deeper into situations, to see past the physical and see what is REALLY going on. A valuable addition to how you handle life.

Thanks Katie, that story was great!
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Seth V January 27, 2010 at 1:27 pm

Katie,

This is one of the reasons we all look to you and take your words to heart. Thank you again for having a path of giving to allow us the chance to give ourselves.

Seth

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Jamie S. February 13, 2010 at 8:02 am

I really love that story. It is a story that I can relate to.

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Shannon Tecson March 7, 2010 at 5:42 pm

Aww..thank you for sharing Katie :)
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Luis October 2, 2010 at 9:55 pm

This a great story. thanks for sharing
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Carlos M. October 2, 2010 at 10:01 pm

I love this story it really touch me
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