Cultivating Meaningful Relationships Will Create Massive Success…

April 1, 2009

I just got back home from having lunch with a dear friend and business partner of mine, Jenn Lawlor.  She partnered up with me last year and we’ve become great friends and have made a ton of money together over the past year.  She lives in Alaska with her family and she was down here visiting us in San Diego.

So why am I telling you all this?

Well, I want to point out the importance of building real RELATIONSHIPS with other people in our industry.  And I think this is what really separates the successful internet entrepreneurs from the ones who just can’t seem to sustain a steady income flow.

If your sole focus is just on making sales and making a profit, you have a very short-sided and short-term mindset.  The real leverage and profitability in this industry is in the long-term relationships you build with other people.

One of my favorite quotes is from Robert Kiyosaki, a world renowned entrepreneur and investor. He says, “Wealthy people build networks… Everyone else looks for work.”

When you are building relationships with like-minded entrepreneurial people, you are building your own personal network.  This is a network that is YOURS for life.  And THAT is where you will find the long term business sustainability you’re looking for. When you build real relationships with people, it doesn’t matter which network marketing opportunity you’re building or which affiliate program you’re promoting.

People will join you and follow you because of YOU. And in order to attract and keep a following of people, you have to understand one more important concept… The more you GIVE the more you will RECEIVE.

Just as in any relationship, if there isn’t a balance of giving and receiving, the relationship becomes one-sided and not very mutually beneficial.  It’s blatantly obvious in our industry to see who really gets this and who doesn’t.  And I’m sure you know what I’m talking about… We all see those people who just hang out on myspace, twitter, and facebook spamming their link all over the place.

These people have NO CLUE how to really cultivate relationships.  And from my own experience, the reason I’ve been able to see so much success in my own business is because I UNDERSTAND the dynamics of relationship building.

So I’m going to share with you a few key points to digest about developing real authentic relationships with other people…

First off, the #1 relationship you’ll EVER have is the one with yourself. Now, this isn’t a bunch of woo woo fluff here… This is going to make a HUGE difference in the level at which you’re able to relate to other people.

Before you can fully be present with and connect with those around you, you must fully understand yourself.  What are YOU all about? What are your dreams and goals? What IS this life force that’s living out your life right now? Do you fully accept and love yourself without judgment?

Brutal honesty and authenticity with your own Self is most important… Because without it, you can never be fully authentic with other people.  I know this because I’ve been there… I grew up incredibly shy, insecure, and just flat out uncomfortable in my own skin. This was not a very pleasant thing to go through as a child.

I was always so concerned about how I appeared in the eyes of those around me that I completely disregarded and ignored my own Self.  Now that I’m quite a bit older, I’ve grown out of this (thank goodness!), but I can see how a lack of self understanding, love, and acceptance really affected my ability to cultivate true, deep relationships with others.

So now, when it comes to relating to other people, especially when you’re prospecting or building relationships with other entrepreneurs, it’s all about CONNECTION.  Find out what you both have in common or find a way to relate to this person in some way. When two people find a common thread between them, the bond becomes much stronger.

This is why attraction marketing is so darn powerful.  I can make videos or write emails about myself and my ideas and views and I will literally attract people of the same vibration.  That’s how I met Jenn Lawlor. I made videos a while back about female entrepreneurship. I was trying to encourage and empower other women to get out there and start creating real freedom and wealth for themselves.

She saw me and loved what I stood for… She partnered up with me last year, we both made lots of money working together, we built a solid and real friendship, and now we’ll probably be business partners for years to come.

Do you see the power of real connection now?

If I were to have just made videos pitching my opportunity or spamming my link all over facebook, I would never have attracted such a top notch partner into my life.  So what I’m trying to say here today is to think long-term… Build your own personal network by cultivating relationships with as many people as possible.

Try to forget about just making that ‘next sale’ and focus on how you can HELP those around you make money themselves.  Find out what other people’s goals and dreams are and do everything you can to assist them in making it happen.  Again, the more you focus on other people and how you help them get what they want, you’ll get much more of what you actually want…

And trust me, you want much more than just money. It’s part of the natural human condition to want real meaningful relationships with other human beings.  That’s really what enriches our lives and our experiences. And in our industry, it’s like killing two birds with one stone…

The more relationships you build, the more money you make… And the more relationships you build, the more love and beauty you invite into your life as well!

So make that your focus. It will make all the difference!

*Katie Freiling*

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Charles April 12, 2009 at 2:43 am

Every “story” you write resonates with me.
You are a magnificent mentor, as that is just what I need to hear/read.
Thank you for your inspiration and personal example of transformation.
Here’s to building great relationships in 2009!
Just knowing you are there..and have been where I am …gives me HOPE.
Thank You,



Sean Bridger April 28, 2009 at 1:47 am

Hey Katie,

I really love this post. You hit the nail on the head. Building relationships sharing common interests and having an understanding of yourself are more than just important.

I have written you a message on Facebook, I’d like to work with you. It must be the vibration….

I look forward to hearing more from you soon



Shobha Rani Bantula May 24, 2009 at 8:01 pm

Hi Katie,

That was a wonderful post from you, I just admire the way you are in tune with your innerself. I am new to network marketing and hope to make it big, I have learnt these lessons which have the fragrance of your experiences in very early part of life. I am glad that I did.

May God give you in abundance of wealth of knowledge

Look forward to more posts like this….



Naomi June 2, 2009 at 2:04 am

Hi Katie loved what you said about building relationships,I’ve seen you on Jonathan’s Mastermind system and valued what you had to say there. We are also in Jenn’s marketing system and in lifepaths. having a fanastic journey,hope to meet you in person one day soon. thanks for the example Naomi Kuipers


Curt Miller June 4, 2009 at 7:22 am

I fully understand what you are saying here… but i can see why many people will never “get it”.

I am waiting for your second email to come in so i can check you out again… 😉


Michelle June 7, 2009 at 10:35 pm

Hi katie:

This is a wonderful post…Thank you



Deante Section July 24, 2009 at 6:53 pm

I just wanted to say i started my blog about 3wks ago, and everysince i first started researching how to be a successful internet/social marketer almost everyday i have refered back to your blog. Your a great inspiration. I really know what you mean about building good relationships. Steve Hachey and wonderful mentor and myself have a great relationship hes one of the guys that refered me to your blog. If i didn’t think that you were here to help i wouldn’t have come back. Thank you for being genuine and showing me the right path to take. You arer a blessing to us all.
.-= Deante Section´s last blog .. =-.


Katie Freiling July 25, 2009 at 12:04 am

Deante, thank you so much! That means the world to me… I love being able help, inspire, and empower anyone who’s truly ready to create freedom. Please let me know how I can further assist you and I really look forward to networking with you and getting to know you better! :)

Katie Freiling


Amanda October 1, 2009 at 8:40 pm

Katie, I completely agree! As soon as I found out what attraction marketing was I fell in love with it! I think it is so much more powerful (and easy) to be yourself and have others love you because if they love you as opposed to your product or service, like you mentioned it will be a wonderful relationship for years to come!

Thanks for sharing this great content!
.-= Amanda´s last blog ..SuperQuick Tip Of The Week – You, Inc. =-.


Kimberly Castleberry January 16, 2010 at 3:49 am

I fully and completely agree with Dante, I came for a visit and stayed for the heart! My having launched my blog a couple weeks ago is actually a direct impact of having “met” you! I don’t really know how I got here, but I immediately was at “home” with your approach. I was so thrilled to see someone that brought the personal, emotional and spiritual side before the business side. Too many today are chasing the golden calf, and burning relationships not building them. Thank you for showing that you CAN stay true to your spiritual roots while thriving in this environment. You’re an inspiration.
.-= Kimberly Castleberry´s last blog ..January 1st 2010 – Happy New Years! – New Blog Launch! =-.


Chuck Bluestein May 23, 2010 at 4:23 pm

You said above “Before you can fully be present with and connect with those around you, you must fully understand yourself.” There are these personal growth seminars called Insight. The main saying that they have is “Take care of yourself so you can take care of others.”

Also how you treat yourself is how you will treat others. The very famous saying about this is “Misery loves company.” If you are having fun doing business then others will want to join you and make money while having fun.
.-= Chuck Bluestein´s last blog ..Senator Arlen Specter =-.


James June 22, 2010 at 11:41 am

This is a great post. I am blogging on relationships,and you really have to connect with the problems readers are going through. I rely on my own personal experiences, and dont pretend to be an expert. This helps me write on the level with my readers and really connect with how they feel.

You can’t do that by just bragging about your expertise or trying to push a product. Granted, i have a few products, and I occasionally do a product review, usually at the request of my readers who are asking about the products in my sidebar.

It all comes down to giving your readers what they want, and driving them to your offer.
.-= James´s last blog ..Are you Killing the Communication in Your Relationships? =-.


Damon Krikwen July 7, 2010 at 10:11 pm

I would like to start off by saying, thank you for providing me with the information I’ve been looking for. I have been searching the internet for two hours searching for it and would have given my right arm if I would have located your site sooner. Not only did I find what I was searching for, but also found answers to questions I never even thought to ask. Thank you for your wonderful web-site!


Luis September 11, 2010 at 11:33 am

Hi Katie,

this is so awesome and I really appreciate for sharing. I have been learning sooo much from you. Thank you
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Carlos M. September 28, 2010 at 3:00 pm

I appreciate you insights
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