5 Steps To Cultivating *AUTHENTIC* Power

If you are open and ready, this post could be one of the most transformative, empowering, and liberating posts on personal growth you ever read… Enjoy!

So what is authentic power?  Authentic power is what will set you FREE… It is the source of your happiness, fulfillment, personal success, and depth of the love and joy you are able to experience in life.

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Authentic power does not come from money, fame, control over others, or being ‘better’ or ‘stronger’ than anyone else… Authentic power is completely sourced from within yourself.

It is your inner knowing and inner guidance that perceives life from a perspective of love and trust.  An authentically empowered person does not depend on anything external to feel complete, worthy, or fulfilled.  He or she chooses to live for the highest good of all and sees the interconnectedness of all of life.

People with true authentic power do not judge, criticize, or blame anyone or anything else for their emotions, experiences, or circumstances… They take full responsibility for their internal state and understand that everything they experience, whether good or bad, is a result of the way they perceive and process life.

They see every life experience and every emotion as a means to learn more about themselves… Everything is a lesson and they trust in the universal flow of life to give them exactly what they need to grow.

Because they look inward for their source of worthiness, love, and security, their external reality becomes a reflection of the truth, love, and trust they feel within.  They are able to attract relationships that reflect true love and care, and they live and operate from their internal power source, resulting in more external success, wealth, and abundance.

The Opposite Of Authentic Power…

Someone who lacks authentic power and only pursues ‘external’ power seeks fulfillment in their external world… They have a deep need to feel worthy, secure, and loved because they have not yet realized the source of everything they seek is within themselves.  Because of this, they seek fulfillment through acquiring material possessions, clothes, a nice car, a big house, their appearance, approval from others, feeling more successful or superior than others, or needing another’s love to feel worthy.

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The pursuit of external power does exactly the opposite of what the person seeking it actually hopes for… It leeches their power and they continually feel the need to restore it, perpetuating the cycle of external seeking and loss of power.

This person will wonder why their life does not look differently… They’ll wonder why they are so unsatisfied with their job, their relationships, their happiness, their personal success…

They’ve been giving their power away, probably for longer than they can remember, because they are placing their power in the hands of other things, people, and circumstances, hoping that they will make them happy.  They look to rearrange and control their external world to satisfy their insatiable hunger for love and security.

I know what this feels like all too well because this is the reality that I used to live in… Growing up, I became so consumed with what others thought of me and I sought to please them in order to feel good and worthy about myself.  I got into the bad habit of giving my power away and it’s taken quite a bit of self-reflecting, exploration, and inner work to really break this lifelong habit.

Most everybody alive today has been conditioned to seek external power for their happiness and fulfillment.  Some may seek control, more friends, a better reputation, a better physical appearance, more money, more success, a ‘perfect’ relationship, or even a ‘spiritual identity’…

Although we all may seek different things, the source of all external seeking is the same… It comes down to looking outside of ourselves to feel worthy, secure, and loved.  And at the heart of all external pursuits, is a deep, and sometimes quite unconscious, insecurity.

Anyone who seeks external power in any form is looking to fill a void of insecurity.  They do not know who they are and look to other people, things, and events to feel worthy.  Even the most confident, outspoken, and seemingly ‘empowered’ person who ‘has it all’ still feels, at her core, insecure.

The insecurity is covered up a wide variety of ways, but what is most important and what is most needed for humanity right now, is to heal those places within us that cause the perpetual insecurity.  It takes courage and trust to go within and find the sources of pain and suffering… But once we do, we can pull out the roots of fear and insecurity once and for all and start living a life of true empowerment, unconditional love, and real happiness.

So the path to authentic power is really about healing the deep insecurities within ourselves.  It is about mastering our emotions and taking responsibility for our lives.  I’ve put together a 5 step process that will help you discover, uncover, and free the parts of yourself that cause you to suffer…

Even though I’ve laid it out as a step by step process, this is not a “one time does the trick” type of work… Sometimes it can take months, years, or even a lifetime to really understand the inner workings of our thoughts, emotions, patterns, and habits.  But once we do, we clear out space for our true, infinite, ever loving, and ever powerful Self to shine forth.

It is in getting in touch with our true Self, not the image we have of who we are or who we hope to be, that truly leads to authentic empowerment. 

Ok, so here it goes… 5 Steps to Becoming An Authentically Empowered Human Being:

Step 1:  Become Aware Of Your Intentions.

In order to become aware of our insecurities and the way we mask them, we have to become aware of our intentions… Why do you do, say, and act the way you do?  Throughout your day, start asking yourself these questions…

  • Do I do or have this to feel more secure? 
  • Do I do or have this to feel better about myself?
  • Do I do or have this to feel better than others?
  • Do I do or have this to feel loved or worthy?

If you can be brutally honest with yourself, you’ll start to unravel a buried truth behind your true intentions for how you live, operate, and maneuver throughout life. 

If you realize that, for example, the real reason you drive the car you do (or desire the car you want in the future) is to feel better about yourself, be happy and proud that you were able to be honest enough to even admit it to yourself… Don’t judge it.  Try your best to observe without judgment.  Awareness in and of itself is all you need to start making more authentic decisions in the future.

Step 2:  Start To See YOURSELF As The Source Of Your Worthiness.

This step will definitely not happen overnight.  But as you become more aware of the inauthentically driven parts of yourself that seek security, love, and worthiness in other people, situations, and things, you clear space for the truth of your own worthiness to shine through.

Spend some time reflecting on the true nature of who you are… Are you just a bunch of molecules that have taken the shape of a body?  Or are you more than that? 

If you’re open to it, try and spend a few minutes alone each day in silence and just feel the aliveness of your internal body.  The more you do this, the more you’ll start to feel that you are more than just a body.  You are the awareness that realizes it has a body, a mind, and a place on this earth.  

You, me, and everyone else on the planet is worthy beyond comprehension.  Where we all got this idea that we weren’t, I don’t know!  But it’s time for the truth to start spreading like wildfire and touching everyone who is open enough to hear it.

YOU are the source of the love and worthiness you seek.  Once this is realized, you are not seeking to fill a hole in your heart any longer.  You’ve filled your own self first and now you have a much greater depth and openness to even experience what true love and joy feels like.  You no longer feel it’s missing and look to find it elsewhere. 

Nothing or no one else ever has the power to make you worthy or unworthy.  You are already it… Claim it!

Step 3:  Become Aware Of Your Emotions.

Most people have no clue how to get in touch with what they’re feeling… They’re so used to avoiding their emotions and burying their pain, that they don’t even realize they have any emotions until they blow their lid one day and rupture in anger, grief, jealousy, or irritability.

Contrary to what most people believe, our emotions are not a result of outside, external circumstances.  They are products of the way our energetic composition processes energy.  So when you feel angry, it’s not because someone else ‘caused’ it.  It’s completely due to the way you perceive, process, and release energy.

The same provoking situation that resulted in your release of anger could have resulted in an entirely different release in someone else.  The anger that you feel now is essentially the same anger you’ve been feeling all your life… The only thing that’s different is the situation provoking it.

So why is it important to become aware of your emotions?  We experience so many different forms of emotion on a daily basis, that when we’re not aware of them, they will end up directing and dictating our behavior.  If there’s unsettled anger or fear that we’ve buried within us, that anger or fear will erupt and lash out at the slightest bit of tension. 

Negative emotions, such as judgment, jealousy, anger, sadness, and frustration are all sourced from fear.  So if we ignore and refuse to feel or acknowledge these emotions when they come up, fear will end up running the show.   Allowing fear to fester and grow can become incredibly unhealthy… physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually.

Emotions are meant to teach us about ourselves if we listen.  They are fleeting, temporary moments of expression that show us how our internal state is perceiving and reacting to the world.  They are incredible teachers and messengers.  If negative emotions are buried, we are holding onto them and creating more suffering.

Authentic power is when you are aware of everything you’re feeling and all of the decisions you’re making, moment by moment… It’s conscious, whereas un-dealt with emotions will result in unconscious behavior.

So being able to recognize our emotions and what we’re feeling is critical.  Practice feeling your body next time you feel an emotion rising to the surface… Where do you feel tightness?  Do you feel it in your head, throat, chest, or stomach?  Our bodies are incredibly interconnected with our emotions, so you’ll be able to understand a whole lot about your emotions just by observing where you feel it in the body.

After you learn how to observe emotion, the next step is detaching from it.  Without detachment, you can become consumed in your emotional state and get swept away.  Think of this like being in a river of water, where the water represents your emotions.  If you’re in the water, you could potentially get tossed around, without control, and all you can see is the water that surrounds you.

But if you take a moment to detach, or step out of the water and onto a bridge overlooking it, you can take on a whole new perspective that you couldn’t see earlier.  You can now see the water clearly, but you can also see the land, the bridge, the sky, and everything else.  You have a much more objective perspective at that point and you can become the master of your emotions.

When you detach though, it’s important to remain open and feel the emotion completely… Feel it in it’s entirely without resisting.  When you do this, your emotions will start to flow through you without getting lodged in your emotional or energetic body for any longer than is needed.

Emotions are healthy.  Holding onto, avoiding, or burying emotions is not.  Emotional awareness will help you become a much more conscious and authentically empowered being.

Step 4:  Shift From ‘How Can I Change Others?’ to ‘How Can I Change Myself?’

When we experience an unpleasant emotion, the conditioned response in us wants to immediately seek to change or alter our external circumstances.  We want others to change, the situation to be different, or we blame others for the way we feel. 

“If only he/she would treat me differently, then I’d be happy” is an example of responding to emotion by wanting to change others.  This is refusing to take responsibility for the way we feel and at the same time, covering up and hiding the pain that we feel inside.

An authentically empowered person experiences unpleasant emotion and asks, ‘How can I change myself?’  They understand that they alone are the source of the unpleasant or painful feeling and look to shift their perspective.  In this way, you are maintaining your power because you don’t look to anyone else or any outside situation to make you feel better.

You are responsible for your happiness or unhappiness and whether you know it or not, no one else has the power to make you unhappy or happy unless you give it to them.

We always have the opportunity to take responsibility for the way we feel and use our emotions as a means to learn more about ourselves.  Negative emotions are messages that show us the remnants of fear, insecurity, and unworthiness that are left inside.  And positive emotions show us when we are choosing love and evolving ourselves into more conscious, authentically empowered human beings.

Step 5:  Shift From Fear and Doubt To Love and Trust.

Anytime you feel bad or you’re experiencing a negative emotional state, you are releasing your emotion in fear and doubt.  You don’t trust the world, you feel alone and isolated, you feel powerless, and you blame other people and other circumstances for the way you feel.

If you’re feeling jealous, for example, you are fearful of losing love or losing your imagined source of worthiness.  Don’t resist the feeling, feel it in its entirety, but also know that you have the power to shift your energy at any moment you choose.

You always have the power to take a step back, take a few deep breaths, and determine whether or not the provoking situation is worth giving your power away and feeling bad. 

In every moment, you can shift your fear into trust.  You can choose to trust life and all of the lessons and experiences you are experiencing.  You can choose to see your emotional state as a message and a lesson for how you can further grow and evolve… And then choose to use your pain as a catalyst for change.

When you consciously choose love and trust, your body will relax, tension will dissipate, everything will seem much lighter, and you surrender in knowing that everything you’re experiencing is for a reason.

If you can choose to see all experiences, emotions, relationships, successes, and failures as lessons in growth, you’ll be living and operating as an authentically empowered individual.

Ground yourself in love and trust and you’ll no longer be swept away by fear, or the unfulfilling promises that external power never seems to keep.  You’ll know what it feels like to be intimate with life and you’ll experience an underlying joy in every moment, no matter what emotion you might currently be feeling.

Authentic empowerment is the ability to see, live, and embody the truth.  And in order to know the truth, we have to be willing to face our fears, feel our pain, and grow.  Otherwise, our lives will be run by unconscious, buried fear and we’ll continue to attract exactly what we don’t want in life.

An authentically empowered person does not seek fulfillment in anything else but the love and light that shines from within.  And because of this, he/she is able to attract more authentic love, wealth, and success than ever thought possible.

Thank you for taking the time to read this entire post today… The ideas outlined here have honestly changed my life.  They have helped me to shift back into my natural place of true, authentic power.  And my hope is that it will impact and help transform your life as well…

Yours in Authentic Power,

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P.S.  The ideas shared in this post today were inspired by the book, “The Heart of the Soul : Emotional Awareness 5 Steps To Cultivating *AUTHENTIC* Power ” by Gary Zukav.  If you’re interested in learning more about emotional awareness and authentic power, I highly suggest this book!

P.P.S.  Please share this post today with everyone you care about.  Email it to your family, your friends, and share it with your Twitter followers, your Facebook friends, fellow entrepreneurs, and with anyone else you feel compelled to.  This is a message that everyone needs to hear… The more authentically empowered people we have in our world, the more love and peace we will all share together.  It’s time to evolve and start expressing more of our true power and infinite potential!

And please leave me a comment, even if it’s just a quick shout out!  I always love and appreciate feedback! 

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Therese Miu November 17, 2009 at 9:26 am

Katie, This one hit the spot for me…

When you embrace your authentic self you are embracing the INNER Light that SHINES within YOU–the song within you that’s waiting to be sung, the movement inside your body that’s waiting to be danced, the spark within you that’s waiting to IGNITE. The Purpose, passion, Mission in Life that’s waiting to be journeyed…

I have been going through my own personal Mission Statement that gears to Number 1 on your list above and have seriously asked myself many questions that gears to my being as a whole.
1.) What makes me Smile?
2.) What acitivites makes me lose track of time?
3.)Who Inspires me Most?
4.) Which qualities inspires me in each person?
5.) What am I naturally good at?
Also Becoming aware of my emotions and what MAKES ME COME ALIVE! And always looking within for answers rather than people, situation, and the world.. Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.” – Carl Jung


Love Light & Blessings
.-= Therese Miu´s last blog ..Why Giving is Important? It is in Giving that we truly Learn to L I V E =-.


Eric Goldstein November 17, 2009 at 9:48 am

Right on Katie!

When we start looking for things
outside of ourselves to make us
happy… it’s usually always

We all want those external things
because we think in the having of
them… we will be happy.

So we can just take the ‘short cut’
and be ‘happy’… enJOY Hawaii!
.-= Eric Goldstein´s last blog ..I’m Running A Marathon… Why I’m Doing This?? =-.


Marco November 17, 2009 at 10:02 am

Thanx for this great post Katie! I find it difficult to transform my feeling of fear into love, I often seem to be stuck in the FEAR-gear and can’t find the clutch to change to the LOVE&TRUST-gear so to speak. Are there any additional tips/tricks to make this change easier? Thanx for any feedback you can give me! X


Katie Freiling November 17, 2009 at 10:25 am

Hey Marco, when we feel fear, it’s usually because we want to control, or can’t control, a particular situation or feeling… So the path to love and trust is really to just surrender and let go. When you just let go of your grip or your need to control, and you accept the way you’re feeling without judgment or resistance, you leave space for love and trust to shine through. I’d also suggest spending some time reflecting on times in your life where you did feel love and trust… Really FEEL into that feeling and let your body and mind remember how peaceful and serene that was. So then the next time you’re feeling fear, you can consciously invoke that feeling of love and trust a little more easily. Hope this helps! And if anyone else has anything to add, please do!


Michael Cloke November 17, 2009 at 10:12 am

Wow Katie,

Although I knew most of what your message today, you have really produced an article post worthy of anything that I have ever come across.

I agree that this process takes time. Often years until you fully realise your “AUTHENTIC POWER”

I will tweet, digg and reddit because if more people on the planet knew this knowledge, the world would definitaley be a far better place.

Thanks and Enjoy :)

.-= Michael Cloke´s last blog ..Warrior Forum =-.


Fred Mountjoy November 17, 2009 at 10:25 am

To all my friends this very powerful. Katie this is very good, thank you for sharing this. Your friend Fred Mountjoy


Ken Pickard November 17, 2009 at 10:32 am

WOW… Katie,

This is an amazing post! I also can relate with what you said about giving your power away to others. I lived this lie for a long time as well. I was always trying to please everyone else and was worried about what they were thinking.

Even as an adult just this past year I had a family issues that just went wrong and really took me for a loop. I felt like my inner power and control just left. I actually felt like I was 10 years old again trying to please everyone.

Once I realized what was happening I took control back. I believe it was a shock to everyone else, but needed to be done. Once I confronted these issues and regained my composure I felt very empowered and had a sense of clarity that I never had before.

I now have a better understanding of what must be done when I am confronted with someone who is trying to hurt you. There is a sickness there and most times it can not be confronted.

By not engaging with those unhealthy issues we regained control. The whole issue ended up being very freeing experience.

Thank you again for such an incredible post. I’m very excited to syndicate.

Ken Pickard
The Network Dad
.-= Ken Pickard´s last blog ..Social Tribes on Twitter Lists =-.


Katie Freiling November 19, 2009 at 2:21 pm

Hey Ken, thanks so much for sharing your personal story :) And I’m so happy to hear you enjoyed the post! I wish you the best with your launch! Rock it…


James Humphrey November 17, 2009 at 10:33 am

You know it doesn’t matter how many things I ready about self confidence or becoming successful it all comes back to looking within. Its funny you hear looking within all through life but sometimes we forget.

Great post Katie its interesting how you come into contact with things you just need to hear at that very moment.

Thanks for sharing.
.-= James Humphrey´s last blog ..Tips on Improving Self Confidence for Success =-.


Cheryl Veon November 17, 2009 at 10:47 am

Hi Katie,

I’ve been following you and you’re on target! You are very
wise for your age!

We need more inspiring leaders like you for positive role models!!!

Thanks for sharing,



Karen Sharkey November 17, 2009 at 10:59 am

Hi Katie,
I truly enjoyed reading your post today. This is just what I needed to read today. Thank you.


Donny Gamble November 17, 2009 at 11:13 am

I have learned that people who are authentic and don’t try to be somebody that they are not, tend to attract a certain type of audience to them they have their trust and respect. If you are a person who is not authentic or genuine, then you will never be considered as a true leader because you fail to miss out on the true intentions that life has to offer.
.-= Donny Gamble´s last blog ..MLM Syndication Sunday =-.


Donna Brogan November 17, 2009 at 11:37 am

WOW!!! Katie you should be writing books instead of blog posts. I have always had a problem with fear, control, love and trust. I usually feel I have to please everyone but you know I am doing better in taking care of myself more too. I am going to try what you said about spending more time each day by myself just feeling. Thanks Katie. And I really do think you should think about writing a book. You already have great things written. Just put them together and get it published.
.-= Donna Brogan´s last blog ..How To Grow By Taking A Risk – Get Out Of Your Comfort Zone! =-.


Kathy Wenz November 17, 2009 at 12:12 pm

This is worth reading several times!

Thank you for your insight.


Agastya C.McCargar November 17, 2009 at 1:17 pm

Hey Katie,

I always find that your posts are insightful… never more so than today’s. You address, what for many of us is a core issue that not only immobilizes the masses but actually creates a paralysis… FEAR.

This “5 Steps to Cultivating AUTHENTIC Power” is a GREAT tool to recapture our essence, our birthright and live in the full richness of our true potential in the possibilities we are presented.

Thank you ~ Agastya


Elusiverick November 17, 2009 at 1:20 pm

In my early teens I learnt to think & to wait & to contemplate, for these gifts I am most grateful.


Pat Gage November 17, 2009 at 1:33 pm

Wonderful article, Katie. Thanks for sharing such valuable insight into our humanity.


Dale Holmes November 17, 2009 at 2:32 pm

Gee Katie….

Steps….techniques….authenticity as opposed to what?

I thought Tolle advises us not to get drawn into the drama, the content?

How can that which has no attributes be improved or healed?

Taj Mahal says it best.



Katie Freiling November 19, 2009 at 2:25 pm

Dale, you’re quite the challenger :) Yes, this is the means in which I chose to deliver the message for the sake of organization and simplicity. It is our false ‘psychological self’ that takes things personally, acts out of fear and insecurity, and sees itself as separate and this is the part of us that needs to heal… Of course our true self is infinite, but it takes some real digging and reflecting to clear out all of our conditioning and patterns that keep us from seeing the truth :)


Alan Simmons November 17, 2009 at 2:36 pm

Fantastic post. It’s all within. So many times we think the program or system we are doing is responsible for our success or our failures. This post helps to ground us to the fact that our successes are a reflection of what is inside. Thanks again for the grounding….Alan Simmons


Sue Vittner November 17, 2009 at 2:46 pm

Love it Katie!! Thanks for sharing.
.-= Sue Vittner´s last blog ..40 Day Prosperity Program =-.


Sue Vittner November 17, 2009 at 2:48 pm

Love it Katie!! Thanks for sharing your wisdom. Seems like Hawaii is treating you wonderfully. What’s the name of the B&B you’re at? I’d love to do a similar personal retreat some day.
Love, Sue
.-= Sue Vittner´s last blog ..40 Day Prosperity Program =-.


Amanda November 17, 2009 at 2:49 pm

POWERFUL STUFF! Thank you for sharing this today Katie! I wrote a post awhile back about how to connect with your true inner power and I wrote about some of the same things you have here.

The fact that we already have as much power, love, and worthiness inside us as we could ever need is something many people don’t realize. When I began my journey in personal development this was a favorite concept of mine because I had never believed that before in my life. It just never dawned on me. Now, I am so much more confident in all of my relationships and my abilities by knowing and believing that my worth comes from WITHIN. It’s a very EMPOWERING thought!

All 5 of your steps to authentic power are wonderful and I truly thank you for sharing them! Keep rockin!
.-= Amanda´s last blog ..Reaction vs. Response: Don’t Be The Guy In The Big Silver Truck! =-.


Sharlene Stevens November 17, 2009 at 2:49 pm

Wow great article Katie! It is exciting to be able to look back and see the changes in myself, that’s taken place over the years. It’s always a work in progress and this industry is wonderful for bringing the best out of people :-)
.-= Sharlene Stevens´s last blog ..Are We Keeping Ourselves From Success? =-.


Fredric November 17, 2009 at 3:36 pm

Great post Katie,

The ego is quite tenacious and tricky and loves to keep us bound by fear and self-doubt. The ego will fight to control everyone and everything in order to maintain its “false” identity of being different and separate from everything else.

It is inevitable to fall into this trap if one fully identifies with the body and mind as what they really are. We have a body and we have a mind but we are neither. We simply hold on to both like a hand to a cup up coffee until its time to go.

The authentic self is not bound by the need for validation from external sources or events. I agree that validity comes from within. It certainly takes courage and fearlessness to let go of what no longer serves us and move beyond the confines of the egoic prison that lacks the power of discrimination.

Om Shanti
.-= Fredric´s last blog ..Ganesha: Remover Of Obstacles & Patron Saint Of Personal Development =-.


Dave Anderson November 17, 2009 at 4:52 pm

You’ve hit a home run with this post katie. Beautiful stuff.

“You are the source of the love and worthiness you seek” …. this is absolutely true. Such a simple statement … very elegant.

Thanks for the inspiration. What a great reminder.

Keep it up!

.-= Dave Anderson´s last blog ..How To Create A Dynamite Personal Branding Strategy In 3 Steps … =-.


Damayanthi November 17, 2009 at 4:57 pm

Hi Katie,

Thanks for this very powerful post. On the face of it, it looks so easy, but when you try to do it the most difficult thing is to understand ourselves. I guess I am not used to asking the question why I do what I do and not digging deep enough to get to the root.

This is amazing stuff & appreciate you sharing with us,

Thanks again Katie
.-= Damayanthi´s last blog ..You Want To Start a Home Business But Don’t Have Time.. =-.


AffirmingSpirit November 17, 2009 at 6:49 pm

This is right up my alley, Katie! I love Gary Zukav’s books. When I first learned about #4 (Change yourself), though, I had a lot of internal resistance. That was, until I discovered how easy it really is…and how well it works! Ho’oponopono (Ha’waiian Huna) is a perfect example of how easy & effective it can be to take total responsibility!

I see steps 3 & 5 as related. Our emotions show us how aligned our thinking is with our Inner self/Spirit/Connection to Source. When we feel good (regardless of what is happening externally), our thinking is aligned with Spirit. When we feel bad, our thinking is NOT aligned with Spirit. How do you feel when you are full of fear and doubt? Most feel feelings that don’t feel good, so that means those thoughts are NOT aligned with Spirit.

Thank you for sharing this information!

Many blessings,
.-= AffirmingSpirit´s last blog ..Cultivating Self-Love =-.


Fathi Ridwan Basalamah November 17, 2009 at 7:55 pm

I do agree with you Katie but remember we are just a part of the universe, a part of people and even ourselves are divide by parts, that’s : body, mind and soul. Seek not for perfection, but it is better TO BE A GOOD NORMAL PERSON. Why?
TO BE A GOOD NORMAL PERSON means we dare to be blamed for our own mistakes as well as we dare to correct ourselves, it means we dare to be FAIR TO OURSELVES and OTHERS as well.
To be A GOOD NORMAL PERSON is that simple? That is the QUESTION !
Know our self and learn our subconscious mind through Raya Yoga and Self Hypnosis + 5 steps to cultivating “Authentic” Power of Katie Freiling !


Nelson Whitford November 17, 2009 at 9:50 pm

Hey Katie,

I am amazed at your wisdom once again. Thanks for some great answers of how to deal with real current issues and be a better person at the same time. Hopefully we will make the world a better place by following your 5 steps of becoming a authentically empowered human being. Jonathan Budd lives the life of being authentically empowered to the T, from what little I know of a man with such a deep soul-he is truly authentic, as are you Katie ! and thanks again for helping us all get one step closer to creating a healthier & happier community.

Peace Nelson


George Fourie November 17, 2009 at 11:35 pm

Wow Katie! This post makes me dig deep. I have been reading things about personal development since I was about 22, but it nothing never really sunk in until 3rd June this year.

I’ve always tried to change the ‘outside’ and thinking that it will change what’s inside, but this never happened of course.

I’ve always thought that I ‘knew’ what was going on, but I missed it by a mile.

Early morning, 3rd June, I was listening to Joe Vitale’s Zero Limits and it hit me, HARD!

It felt like someone just took a 2ton rock off my chest. I grabbed the first piece of paper and pen I could find and wrote “TODAY I AM CLEAR!”

For the first time, and although I have spoken about this, maybe even preached it before, I understood that all change and all experiences in life are caused by me, nothing or no one else.

Well, this was of course just the realization and the start of a new journey.

Thanks for this post. You just took me back to the 3rd of June and reminded me of a several commitments I made to myself that day.

REALLY Appreciate it! :)
.-= George Fourie´s last blog ..Video Blog Tools: 5 Gadgets You Simply Can’t Do Without [Video] =-.


Nocancer Chuck November 18, 2009 at 3:25 am

That was a great post, Katie. Although it sounds like you are beginning to fulfill my prophecy. My prophecy was that you will become a more influential person than Eckhart Tolle.

Also you are the exception. All those automated messages that you get when you follow someone on Twitter are terrible except yours. It said to promote yourself on my blog. Also I like reading since I can read much faster than people can talk on a video. But I love watching your videos.

Maybe someone here can tell me what is going on with the Budd videos. He was talking about how Ms. Starre left a huge MLM income and he implied that she was doing it for an MLM that billionaire Branson was creating.

In his next 2 videos there was no mention of this. I guess there is no new MLM. Maybe Ms Starre lost her huge MLM income by being terminated for breaking company policy?


Jay Ortega November 18, 2009 at 5:32 am


Great post Katie… Had me thinking about the way I used to be. But now I understand it even more… Thank you for all the great content you freely give us…

Keep it up girl..

Jay Ortega


Renee Nadeau November 18, 2009 at 7:43 am

This was great Katie!! Loads of inspiring thoughts and love into your writing.
You speak truth.
Coming into Authenticity, is what i like to say is “Who You Really Are” letting go of defining your self as anything else but that.
Love it!!
Thank You
.-= Renee Nadeau´s last blog ..What does it mean to Shine?! =-.


Art November 18, 2009 at 9:54 am

Dear Katie,

Wow! What a brilliant post! Like what Dirty Harry would say:

“You’ve made my day!” Your words of wisdom today are dynamite.

I believe that if you embrace F-E-A-R ( False Evidence

Appearing Real) and confront it head-on, you feel empowered

and free, hence confident of your self affirmation:”I am in

complete control here, and no one else”. The end result will

be your jubilant celebration of inner peace, love, trust, and

joy! Such a wholesome, gratifying feeling is priceless!

Just a thought,



Esther Braden November 19, 2009 at 11:36 pm

Dear Katie, this was a beautiful morning lecture. I really enjoyed your roundup! Cultivating our own authenticity is something that will never stop, yes :), we will dive deeper and deeper in it and than share it with our surroundings…



Sanmay November 21, 2009 at 12:20 am

very nice article…keep it up. I will be back for more information. pls visit my blog http://www.mindpowerclassified.com
.-= Sanmay´s last blog ..Your Emotions Are The Key For The Law Of Attraction =-.


Ian Brown November 21, 2009 at 2:51 am


WOW! What an enlightening post!

We need to be our authentic selves and not try to be someone else. By doing so we gain trust and become more attractive. We become leaders.

When challenged, it is easy to look outside for things to blame or to make us happy. But often, if we indeed find something, it is only a temporary solution. We need to look inside ourselves for the true lasting solution.

Giving your power away to others. I did this a lot until recent years. I spent most of my life trying to please others. I put myself last. Luckily, I woke up and made the change. I took control back. Once I did, I felt empowerment for the first time. Liberation. The fog cleared and I could clearly see the path forward for me.

Thanks for your stirring message.
.-= Ian Brown´s last blog ..Four Mistakes People Make When Networking On Facebook =-.


Debbie Turner November 21, 2009 at 4:12 pm

Katie, I love this article. I hope it hits home with many people. I think for guys even more so, they are taught from an early age to not feel their emotions… not to say that women don’t have the same issues.

Releasing fears, identifying with them, being aware of your body’s connection with them and allowing love and peace in it’s place is powerful.

I especially like this:

“You can choose to see your emotional state as a message and a lesson for how you can further grow and evolve… And then choose to use your pain as a catalyst for change.”

Been there, done that. Thanks for being such the beautiful person you are.
.-= Debbie Turner´s last blog ..Twitter: Keep Track of Your Twitter Groups with Hootsuite =-.


Gil Pizano November 21, 2009 at 5:35 pm

Wow Katie! This has got to be one of your most powerful posts yet!

I agree that it may take a long time to create/discover your “Authentic” power. Regardless, it is an exercise that everyone needs to go through for themselves and (in my humble opinion) the people and causes they care so much about.


Gil Pizano

.-= Gil Pizano´s last blog ..Finding Time for Things, Finding Time for You =-.


Tim Atkinson November 22, 2009 at 4:29 pm

Very well written and beautiful, pure value. Your so brillant Katie. Have a wonderful day


Carina November 23, 2009 at 9:52 pm

Hi Katie:

Once again I am impressed. Yes, it is a lot easier to focus on the outside instead of take responsibility of our true and deep feelings. You said something very true: Someone who lacks authentic power and only pursues ‘external’ power seeks fulfillment in their external world… You know what, everybody knows that, and many even say it all the time, but just a few actually do that.

You start being free once you stop focusing on fixing everybody else and realize that the only person that should be changed by you is you.

Thanks again,
.-= Carina´s last blog ..The inspired Mary Kay Ash Story and her empire Mary Kay Cosmetics. =-.


Zac November 25, 2009 at 6:58 am

Hey Katie,
Thanks for this message. I especially love step 5. Fear is something that at times rears its ugly head in my decision making, and as I look back on my most enjoyable experiences, they were made with the absence of fear.

Thank U for your Inspiration


Jason Kerchner November 25, 2009 at 6:59 am

I think step 3 is perhaps the most powerful. We need to understand out emotions so that we can have some control over them. When we let our emotions overtake us, especially negative emotions, we become slaves to them.

A negative emotion simply means that something in our lives is not right, or that our relationship with that something is flawed in some way. By taking a step back and analyzing our emotions, we have an opportunity to find a solution to the problem we are facing. It might be a problem with our situation, or with our perception.

Emotions are our guides, and we need to learn how to listen and follow them, not be pushed around by them.

Great post, Katie.
.-= Jason Kerchner´s last blog ..Just Who Are Those People You Hang Out With? =-.


Custom essay writing November 27, 2009 at 8:48 am

i agree with jason no. 3 is the most powerful



Jeff C December 3, 2009 at 8:04 pm

Thanks for this. The first one struck me: I think each one has some sort of insecurity within.
.-= Jeff C´s last blog ..Free Membership Access =-.


Debbie December 9, 2009 at 5:41 am

This is a great post Katie! Thank you for sharing this. It’s something that I can read over and over again and always benefit from. =)


David December 22, 2009 at 7:33 pm

Great blog, Katie! True Power comes from within! External power is an illusion and can be taken away at the drop of a hat! Thanks for posting such an amazing blog article!
.-= David´s last blog ..Being Powerful: 7 Keys to a Powerful Identity =-.


Mike Gibson February 10, 2010 at 10:31 am

WOW what a powerful post thanks for the insite..

When I was reading the section about looking for external sources to find happness it slapped me between the eyes and made me realize that I have been doing that. And i couldnt figure out why the happyness would go away so fast.

Now that im aware now I can start working on changing it.

thanks for the amazing post
.-= Mike Gibson´s last blog ..100 Keyboard Shortcuts =-.


Shannon Tecson March 7, 2010 at 4:58 pm

Aloha Katie!
Wow! What an incredible post *hugs*
How I have been able to engage in my own authenticity is by bringing to the forefront my relationship with the “All That Is.” Source energy, Universe, I call mine a personal relationship with God. I learned much from the book Emotional Awareness as well. The freedom of surrender is such a joyous place. I love your daily reminders of being in the present moment. Eckhart taught me to be at peace with whatever it is. It is what it is, and observing nature as you mentioned brings us back to that place of not labeling things. A flower doesn’t complain about why the sun isn’t shining today and a dog doesn’t hold grudges about why she was fed late the day before. Every thing living is always in the now of their own authenticity. I am still a learning and practicing student of life and having you in my network brings much joy to the “inner” work that takes place along the journey.

With love and light,
Shannon Tecson
.-= Shannon Tecson´s last blog ..Amongst Other Gifts You Can Gain Through A Home Based Business =-.


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